r/Obsessive_Love

I hate that I can't hate people

The second I fall for someone, hell the second I start liking them as a person too much it's like they can do no wrong. They can abuse me, say awful things behind my back and to my face, make me suffer over and over, and I still won't be able to hate them, or even dislike them. Even the exs I've moved on from I was never really mad at, despite what some of them did. And now I found out that she called me a sociopath, something I told her I was scared about being, and she turns around and posts it on social media.

Why can't I hate her? Her friend posted them laughing at my response to her breakup text, but I can't hate her. The thought of her literally makes my stomach turn, but I can't hate her. She hates me, but I can't hate her.

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u/batmu88 — 3 days ago

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I just wanted to celebrate him now I’m sitting alone in my room crying feeling so stupid and pathetic

I just need to vent because I feel so hopeless. He had a job interview today and I was genuinely so excited for him. I’ve been asking all week to see him and if I could take him out to celebrate or grab something to eat together depending on how things went. I even asked again last night but he said he was too anxious about the interview to think about celebrating which I understood. Today he called me after getting home but the call was very short and he said he would call me back soon so I waited almost two hours like a fucking puppy waiting for its owner.

Eventually he sent me a voice note telling me he got the job and was going out with his family to celebrate. And honestly I felt so stupid…..I completely understand wanting to celebrate with family and I’m genuinely proud of him but I’d been asking all week to do the same thing I wasn’t asking him to choose me over his family I just wanted to celebrate him too and show him how proud I was. I told him I wasn’t mad and suggested he could make it upto me and I could take him out for his birthday in a couple of weeks instead.

Somehow the conversation went sideways and he started getting upset saying I was making everything about myself and basically implying that I ruined his day by making him feel bad. That’s wasn’t what I was trying to do I didn’t raise my voice or try to start an argument I just wanted him to understand my perspective and ask that next time can he please allow me to celebrate him aswell and let me show him how much I care for him. He basically asked for space for the rest of the night now I’m sitting alone in my room crying cause I feel like i can never do anything right I thought I was being supportive…..

u/prettyhoneyskin — 6 days ago

▲ 83 r/Obsessive_Love

its all so useless.

Loving someone to point where you’re breaking apart sucks. Sucks even more when you know you have absolutely zero chance of being seen/considered. Maybe if I wasn’t ugly I’d have a better chance. But even then, I seriously doubt it.
I just want someone to see me and desire me like I desire them. That’ll never come true.

u/cool_cabbage00 — 6 days ago

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I want obsession but it doesnt want me

I constantly see my friends miserable over a lost relationship, in love in a new relationship or anything in between. Everybody my age seems to have some romantic stuff going on.

And then you have me: Nothing. Emptiness. Never loved, never had a crush and nobodys ever been interested in me. Just an absolute void for anything to do with romance.

But I WANT it. I WANT to be obsessed. I WANT someone who is obsessed with me. I want these strong emotions, the ups and downs. But it just doesnt happen.

Not sure if this even fits here but whatever.

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u/Head-Aioli209 — 14 days ago