u/Foley_7187

So i’m a bit divided on this subreddit. On one hand I resonate with the obsessive tendencies that occur between both partners, as I love clingy love. But I can’t help but feel the more controlling aspects like limiting their friend group, or not letting them even talk to someone of the opposite sex is very toxic no?

What does dating a yandere actually look like? Is there a healthy way of actually approaching that style of dating?

Also, doesn’t a true yandere value their partner’s happiness at all costs? So wouldn’t letting them still be themselves and explore the world be an example of that? After all, it’s the monogamous nature that’s so addicting no?

Your partner can be free, while also being very devoted. Personally I don’t mind someone obsessing over me, i’d just give that energy right back. But I still need the freedom to discover my individuality.

I cant even get along with other people who have social anxiety. Yall just leave me on delivered for like 4 days and im tired of it. Friendship genuinely is an impossible thing atp

Everyone keeps mentioning how summer is coming to an end, but it won’t matter to me. Every season is just the same, summer doesn’t represent anything to me anymore.

And I’m 21, I feel like those really fun years you get to experience in your youth are past me. Now I’ve gotta find a career, in the midst of this dark void I got eating away at me.

It’s worth mentioning I’m from NY, and this past summer may have been the most memorable in the city’s lifetime.

The Knicks won, AND we hosted the world cup? And yet I still experienced NONE of it?

It’s not fair, I feel like the person I should’ve been died the day I developed this bullshit. And I’ve been cursing/screaming at the universe from my bedside ever since.

So y’all are pretty cool, but i’m looking for more places where I can find people with similar emotional problems.

I’m feeling lonely especially from a romantic sense, but the only people who usually talk about that are incels and they’re stupid.

I think like a good community with empathetic intentions is what I need, but asking for that on reddit is very difficult.

None of these critiques apply to this community, I love being here.

It’d be so easy to make friends that way, we could include channels based on various hobbies and maybe even weekly movie nights.

The “General Chat Channel” would flow constantly, giving us a constantly available outlet to vent our problems.

As the title suggests, do any of y’all also use substances to cope?

I know friendships matter more than having a relationship, but I still can’t get that desire out of my heart.

I need some hope rn, have any of you guys been able to find a partner inspite of your insecurities and shortcomings?

What a shame man…

So for as long as I can remember, i’ve always been a romantic. But inspite of this, I don’t have a lot of experience in relationships.

I also have social anxiety, so dating feels really hard and daunting. But I don’t want that to be the case, I wanna experience the love of a lover.

That’s all I can think about, but how could I love another person, if I can’t even show that love towards myself?

How do I start showing myself that love? I wanna start feeling like I can be happy without a lover.

So for as long as I can remember, i’ve always been a romantic. But inspite of this, I don’t have a lot of experience in relationships.

I also have social anxiety, so dating feels really hard and daunting. But I don’t want that to be the case, I wanna experience the love of a lover.

That’s all I can think about, but how could I love another person, if I can’t even show that love towards myself?

How do I start showing myself that love? I wanna start feeling like I can be happy without a lover.