u/sacredwhistle

That's how i felt coming into the fellowship many years ago when my sponsor told me to go to 90 meetings in 90 days and start working the steps, while fully withdrawing from any unnecessary socialization with women for that period.

I went from being the life of the party, social butterfly, flirtatious cool guy -- to not even making eye contact with women i was passing in the streets or buying groceries from -- for months, I did the most "extreme" things i possibly could to stay sober, because i was so done with acting out. Maybe some people thought i was weird and many didn't hear from me for up to a year...

But today, I'm ever grateful for being that "extreme" - because:

Putting my marriage, kids, career, health and mental health ALL AT RISK to get a hit of sex and love for over a decade -- is actually the most extreme thing i could have been doing. It's ludicrous.

This program works for me because it leaves no space for me to go back to living a life that was, by all definitions, insane.

Protecting my sobriety and sanity sometimes requires extreme measures.

I don't know about you all, but i personally think SLAA fellows give some of the best feedback - i've experienced it in outreach and i wish there was more of an opportunity to spotlight or give feedback to someone that's really in a pickle. Of course, if they ask for it -- but most meetings don't even make it an option because of the crosstalk statement in meetings.

There's one meeting i found called Healing Late Night Cravings that allows crosstalk/feedback to shares in their parking lot. People are kind, understanding.

Those meetings are quite late though for me as i like to get in 1-2 meetings per day during work hours (US/CAN)

Anyone else know of any other feedback-crosstalk meetings i could check out?

SLAA was my first and then I got into ACA since it seems being an adult child is at the root, at least for me, of my acting out behaviour.

Curious to know who came from another fellowship into SLAA or if you've turned elsewhere after being in SLAA - please share.