u/sadwomannn

Hi, I was in a relationship with a guy, a really good guy I was in love with him all I wanted was him and he cheated on me.

We stayed together for 6 months, but it was the love of my life.

He cheated 5 times, I accepted that because of the love that I had. He cheated with some girls, they were beautiful. I was just sad looking at these girls like am I ugly or idk what these girls had more than me?

He told me beautiful things, he talked about me to his family and same for me. His friends knew me and they loved me. Saying that I was the only girl who really loved him and cared for him. That I was the beautiful one lol.

After 6 months, I finally let him go of my life like he wanted. And he told me that he was sick and made all this mess up bc of that bc he knew that I would be hurt. He also told me that he knows that I give him my heart, body and yea.. some things i didn’t do in my all 18 years of life lol. He also said that he knows that he ruined my life. Yes he did because I’ve lost 12 pounds in 2 months and I only cared about him. My mom told me that she knew that something was wrong and I denied it. My friends told me the same but I didn’t care, because I loved him. With my all heart.

And now, I’m insecure, I’m scared to be loved and used after all the love I gave. I’m depressed (I’m diagnosed.) but this story makes me cry all time. I don’t love him anymore, I hate him so much. I really do. But I can’t stop crying, I can’t.

Please I just need someone who I can talk with or some person who can tell me a same story and how did they do to be happy again. Thank u.

Hi,

To be honest, idk what to say but I get angry for a small thing, for example when my mom ask me to do something in an unusual tone I feel offended and start to yell at her, or when someone tell me something and they don’t do it after telling me that they’ll do it I’m just gonna crash out ?

And it’s really difficult I can’t handle it anymore.

Like if my friends don’t want to hangout I’m going to feel offended and start to think about bad things about me or yea.. idk why I’m being like this so if someone know or just can help me to figure it out it will be helpful !!

So basically I was talking to a guy, he never told me his age but he told me that it’s ok bc I’m 18 so I thought it was really ok? He was saying like he wanted me he loved me and yea I loved him too because I’m a person with some difficulties so I’m being “in love” so fast and I don’t understand why?

Maybe it’s because it’s not love but just some attachment, but yes anyway. I told him from the very beginning that I was difficult to handle, that I had severe jealousy and possessiveness issues. He told me he was okay with it, that he understood, and that it was completely normal considering my past.

At first, he was incredibly kind, patient, and understanding. But over time, he slowly became exactly what I feared the most. He became mean and started blaming everything on me because I had figured out that he was flirting with or teasing other girls while telling me that he wanted me and that he loved me.

His excuse? “I have my own problems. You don’t understand me. You’re making a big deal out of nothing. I have the right to do it. Besides, we’re not even together.”

I replied, “Then why tell me you love me if you don’t actually love me? And why say those things if you don’t even see us as something romantic or as people who are flirting with each other?”

He told me I was weird and that I was overreacting. But for some reason, I think I’m weird and overreacting because why am I being like this ?

And when I talk with a guy who give me some attention, I’m being obsessed with him like I’m not a cheater so when I love or just talk with one guy I talk only with him I don’t see other guys I don’t like that. But I’m being kind of obsessed I want him all for me and it’s making me sick bc they end up scared and call me a crazy girl.

I know that it’s not really an excuse but I was being cheated on, I only had 3 relationships and they ended up cheating on me because I was too “perfect” for them and that they didn’t deserve me, that’s what they said ofc.

So after that, I became a really obsessed person and super jealous and possessive. But when they show me something that disgust me, my obsession and love disappear as if they had never existed. I become emotionally detached much faster than what’s considered normal.

If anyone deal with this or just know what it is I’d really like to know why am I acting like this.

Hi I wrote this because I don’t understand why people ends up abandoning me.

I change myself for them, I do everything I can to make them happy by my side. I know I’m not a perfect person, nobody is. But I can’t understand why people leave me.

Maybe it’s because I’m depressed ? Or too anxious or stressed about being left that makes them leave ? I never had good friends on the internet, I have 2/3 friends irl and they are always out with other people. I can’t force them to be with me and i understand if they want to go out with others it’s totally normal. But I don’t see them often and I know I need to see some people to be a little bit happier.

So that’s why I decided to start making friends on the social media, but for some reason people use me for my kindness and the love I give them. Then, once they’re done with me, they leave, humiliate me, and walk away.

My biggest fear is to be abandoned and left alone, so when I found someone who I can talk with and who is going to give me a lot of time and interest, I’m literally going to attach myself to them hoping to get some kindness by them or love from them. I know I’m dumb for trusting them but I know there are still good people.

I know people use me for my kindness but for some reason I still believe they love me ? Why? I don’t really know.. I don’t know what I have, I don’t know why I’m being like this but honestly I just need some real people who can really love me the way I am.

If anyone has any idea what might be wrong with me, or can help me make sense of it, or simply has any thoughts about my behavior, I’d really appreciate it.

Hi guys, I created this account because I can’t handle it anymore. My family doesn’t want to understand that I’m not good, that I don’t like to be surrounded by people or just don’t like to be with anyone. I’m depressed and I don’t have a lot of friends, I have mental health problems and my family says that I’m not depressed (I saw a psy and she told me that I’m depressed and I need to be understood and have some help..?) they say that I’m crazy and just pretending to be depressed. Today my mom said to me that she is going to put me in an asylum because I really need some help because I’m weird, I don’t like people I have agoraphobia she said that my phone is the problem ??? But my phone helps me to be able to handle a lot of things rn and I honestly don’t know what to do. I tried to talk to my mom about this and she honestly dgaf and say that I’m just acting. I love my mom, I really do love her but these days she’s been acting like a stupid person who can’t understand her child. I’m 18 and I know that is difficult to handle an “adult” like me. But I just want to be understood by my mom or idk if some people can help me or just talk to me about their problems maybe I could understand some things ?

Thank u for reading this I hope someone could help me to understand some things (: