u/salvificsuffering

Very difficult relationship with parents, should I move out?

As the title says I have a very difficult relationship with my parents and had quite an unhappy childhood. I’m 23 and I live at home with them but we are constantly fighting all the time particularly with my dad. However while my parents particularly my father can be difficult people sometimes I am always very volatile and sensitive to everything about them. It’s not a case of me as purely victim and them as aggressor. I know that other people could manage living with them like my brother can but I cannot. I either overreact to them or try to hold my tongue and find myself so angry and upset I feel sick and cannot do anything.

I am obviously old enough to live away from them but I am very anxious, depressed, unorganised, angry and not doing well with the support of my parents and I think I would do even worse without the things they do for me. I don’t know which is worse continuing to live with them and argue but at least maintaining some relationship or moving away and potentially causing a deeper rift by not being in contact until I feel I am ready to reconcile properly at which point it could be too late. I would also not be able to talk much with my Grandmas who are both in their 80s.

I struggle very much to keep a job or leave the house and I have no friends except one person I text so clearly I would struggle on my own. I still feel like a child and I have very poor social skills that would mean I would be unfit in the real world on my own. I am fairly certain if I moved away from my parents I would struggle a lot, rent is extremely expensive where I live and wages are low unless you are very qualified and experienced which I am not. I would probably become even more of a shut in and I worry I would give in to sexual sin with a real man beyond my struggle with pornography.

Despite all of the issues I described it is possible as I have savings but I am unsure if it is wise.

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u/salvificsuffering — 13 days ago

Please pray for me and my friendship

I made a friendship a few years ago with a guy online but recently he hasn’t replied to my messages for months. This is on Instagram and he is viewing my stories but not replying to me at all. I think he might be doing it because two years ago I was not replying to his messages for months because I didn’t know what to say and felt awkward. This is very difficult for me as he is someone who shares all my strange interests and we get along which is very rare for me as I’m somewhat of a difficult person. He is also a Christian and a straight guy (nothing against SSA guys but I find friendships with straight guys more fulfilling often). I feel like that venn diagram of people is almost nonexistent. If he never does reply and the friendship falls apart I don’t know what I will do he is the only male friend I have had since the age of 11 and I’m 23 now. I feel like I’m acting crazy because of it and it is triggering a lot for me.

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u/salvificsuffering — 2 months ago