I love my partner but I'm starting to think I have to let her go
I love my fiancée so much. She is the most amazing woman I've ever met and I knew I wanted to marry her on our first date. We have a genuinely great connection and relationship.
I would love to spend my life with her, making her happy. But I'm starting to think I won't be able to, and it breaks my heart. At the same time... when you love someone, sometimes you have to let them go, right?
We're long distance, and for different reasons (visa, job market, economy) I can't see a real path to us being together. We've both said we want to move toward each other, but it's been almost two years and nothing has been decided. I haven't seen much effort from her side, and honestly, while I've done some things (researching visas, applying to jobs), I haven't made much progress either, for reasons largely outside my control.
I proposed a few months ago and I regret it. Her family keeps asking when we're getting married, but no one is asking about or helping with the actual LDR situation. I also realize now that proposing was a mistake on my part: I thought marriage might help with the visa situation (it won't), and I had a small, simple ceremony in mind while she had something very different in her head. I should have talked with her first... that's on me.
Before her, I was in a long relationship and stayed too long. I regretted that. I don't want to repeat the same pattern. I dont want to make her lose her time because I truly love her.
Has anyone been through something similar?