u/scarz1111

I (17f) and my bf (18m) have been together for about 2 and a half years. We have had a very solid and strong relationship, and rarely even argue. He does everything right, gifts, dates, sleepovers, always affectionate. Everything’s been going fine, except for lately.. it’s been hard. For reference I graduated last year and he’s graduating in two weeks. He goes to online school. He’s always struggled with schoolwork and other things (i believe he has undiagnosed ADHD honestly). Right now he’s behind on his school work about a week, but he’s been doing his work every day for the past month or so for multiple hours, which is why i’m kinda confused why he’s still behind? But that’s not really the point. The point is, he’s been a bit busy lately.

We usually hangout in person once a week but I’m not going to see him until after he graduates due to him being so busy. He still has a set schedule, he wakes up and does his school for a few hours before relaxing and hanging with friends/me.

I called him around 10pm (late for most, but both of us are night owls and tend to sleep late at night like 3am) I called him 3 times in the span of 15 minutes and thought he maybe went to sleep so I jokingly messaged him “not even gonna say goodnight?” when he finally called me. He said he started playing with his friends like 5 minutes before. I told him I had been trying to call him and he said he just wanted to hang out with his friends. I said that I had called him before he’d even started hanging out with them and had brought up how we’ve barely spent any time together the last few weeks because of how busy he’d been. (and honestly, why couldn’t he had played games earlier in the day? he stopped his school work at 5pm) He said he wanted to play with them at that exact moment and that he would call me later.

The main reason I’m upset about this is also because we’ve had issues similar to this before. We had an argument about a year ago because he spent 8 entire hours with his friends one day after he promised to call me that day the night before. When he did call me that day, he just said goodnight and slept. This is very common with him, he will play for hours with his friends after promising to hangout with me and then when he finally calls me it’s super duper late at night and says he’s tired and just sleeps, so we end up not talking at all, he will say “i’ll talk to you tomorrow” and the same things happen.

So I was a little ticked off because I already knew that since he was with his friends, he would call me just to say that he’s sooo tired and go to sleep. So I waited, i even made some homemade play doh and sculpted with it for a while. He finally called me after spending 3 hours with his friends. I know 3 hours does not seem like a lot, but he had spent maybe two hours with me in the past 8 days, so I was a little upset especially because I called him first and he’d pinky promised to talk to me that day. And of course, soon after calling me he went to bed.

We did argue a bit before that though because after he joined his friends I got mad and texted him a few things along the lines of “why do you always tell me you’ll hangout with me and then bail to be with ur friends???” During our argument he mentioned he’d vented to his friends about me, and one had brought up messages I’d sent him. His friend told him that I sent messages to him saying that my boyfriend has low testosterone. Im not even sure where he got this idea from because I’ve never even said the word testosterone before. I even had to share my screen and show the messages with this friend to my boyfriend.

Now this is not even really what I’m posting this to ask about. This is just a background on how we got into this argument, which is what I’m really asking about. I’m not sure if I am in the wrong for the things brought up during it. He said that I never listen to him and I do things he doesn’t like, then couldn’t name a single time that I did something like that so I’m still not sure what he means. I don’t remember exactly what was said afterwards but he said something, and i said, “So you think i’m a narcissist?” and he said “well you come from your mother.” and when he said that i got very upset and almost cried. i have a very rocky relationship with my mother but why is not relevant, it’s just the fact he would say something so hurtful to me.

We said a few more things to each other when I brought up how he’d hurt me a few weeks before. Basically, we were hanging out in a group, me, him, and two friends. We were at my boyfriend’s house and they were talking about PCs which I know nothing about. They were in the hallway and I was on the couch. I got up and tugged on my boyfriend’s arm to get his attention because I wanted to give him a hug. He shushed me and I tugged on him again before he said “give me a minute.” So i went and sat on the couch. A minute later I got up to try and get his attention again and he then grabbed my chin very quickly, put his face like 2 inches from mine and said “i told you to give me a minute i’m busy” and pushed me into the living room. I was very taken aback and honestly very frightened by this because it’s very out of character for him and I still don’t even fully understand what happened or why.

I told him he had hurt me and he used it as an example on how I never listen to him. I feel as though this was a huge overreaction on his part but he just keeps telling me that I should have just listened to him. I know i am probably overreacting about most of this but i just feel so confused and i mostly just need to get my thoughts out. I am mostly just very sad we don’t hangout often especially when he always seems to have so much time for his friends. He said that I make every time we talk into an argument, and i am honestly hurt by that very much. i don’t try to, i am just very big on communication so any time i have an issue i bring it up but he takes it as an argument when i don’t want it to be. Please be honest AIO? and if i am please explain how because i really want to be better but it’s so stressful and he’s not helping me understand his point of view.

I have! i found my sweet girl Evelyn online 💕 her story was so heartbreaking and is a cold case to this day, they never caught her killer 😢 I even have a photo of her! she was so beautiful. Has anyone else looked up their spirits and found something about them?

I’ve got a trickster spirit that won’t leave me alone. She’s not negative though she’s a positive child spirit. I’ve asked her to leave and she refuses. I’ve been told to make a ward using a photo of her but I don’t know how. I printed a photo but now i’m not sure what to do next. What else do i do?