Dating someone with HSV2 while having an autoimmune
I met my GF almost a year ago and prior to us having sex she had disclosed to me that she has HSV2. Upon telling me she had stated she never had an OB and didn’t know how long she had it. She told me that she had a full panel at planned parenthood and that was how she found out. Over the course of the last year we have not used any protection and so far I have not had any symptoms and she has had no OB’s.
Last week the topic was brought up again but this time she admitted that she had lied to me and said when she was first diagnosed that she did in fact have an OB over a year ago but none since. I am feeling pretty off about her lying about this and not sure how to move forward.
I have an auto immune that I am about to start taking Humira for and am now starting to get concerned with the potential impact of having HSV2 will have on me if I were to have gotten it. Moving forward she agreed to start taking antivirals and is fine with me wearing condoms to reduce risk.
Not sure what I should do moving forward and or how worried I should be. I was considering making an appointment with my doctor and requesting a blood test even if they can be inaccurate. I have looked at transmission rates and understand they are low especially from female to male even with no protection. My fear now is that I already have it and it’s laying dormant and will show once I start taking my immunosuppressant shots. The only things I have seen with people taking immunosuppressants and having HSV2 seem pretty grim.
Does anyone have any insight with any of this?