u/sealite

A standard-length small, medium or large may fit your torso, but it is not long enough. Every time you raise your arms above your chest you are flashing your midriff, your short sleeves often look comically short; you look like a short person wearing a kid's size.

You should only wear tall-length shirts, especially if they're untucked. Yes, this means you are very limited to where you can shop and will usually need to buy clothes online. Accept it. Find styles you like at places that do you have your size. No matter how nice a shirt is, it does not look good if it does not fit you. This is the price we must pay for our gorgeous tall bodies. This is our burden.

This may be obvious to some, but it has taken me (33m 6'4") a long time to understand and fully accept. I wish I had more options, but accepting I don't and wearing what's fit me has improved my look and made me feel more comfortable in my clothes.

After full-time nomading for about 6 years, I am trying to "settle down" or "have a base" in one place. The biggest reason is that I want to find a long-term partner, since I'm in my early thirties and eventually want kids. On top of that, there are other reasons: I am quite content with how much I've traveled, I'm sick of living out of suitcases and the overhead of constant planning and moving, and I miss having a stable friend group.

After doing a lot of research last year—studying nomad visas, considering where I've liked the most, what's important to me, etc.—I eventually settled on a city in Southern France. I like it here; the place itself has everything I'm looking for on paper: good weather, I already speak the language fluently, good hiking, close to the sea, good food, affordable enough, vibrant but not overwhelmingly big, etc. However, now I'm in a sort of "itchy period," where I've done most of the big things in the area I was excited about, the novelty has worn off, and while I've made some friends here, I haven't yet found a relationship or made deep friendships that would make me want to stay for their sake alone.

I don't think it's this place, though. Sure, there are things I don't like (French people can be a bit of an acquired taste, bureaucracy, etc), but frankly, that is true anywhere. I think I'd feel a lot like this in most any place I try to move to. Given that I have a completely remote income stream, haven't lived in the same place for six years now, and I'm single, I feel like I don't have a reason to be anywhere. Ironically, 7 years ago, I worked so hard to free myself from all constraints so I could be a DN, and now I'm wishing I had some of those constraints back to ground me in one place.

I've considered moving home, where I have most of my family and many of my friends still, but I'm from the US Midwest, and it's cold and flat, making it a very hard sell for me personally. I've been considering getting an in-person job in a big metropolis just to have a reason to be somewhere, but I'm not crazy about big cities, and many of the best jobs in my industry are already fully remote. So, now once again, I'm finding myself asking an all too familiar question that I'd rather not be asking this time: where should I go next?

Nomads who have left the lifestyle and settled down, did you grapple with similar struggles? How did you come to commit to a place that you had no external anchors to?