Has Becoming More Practising Made Marriage Harder for Anyone Else?
As-salaamu alaikum
A genuine question, especially for those who found marriage later or after a difficult chapter.
Did becoming more serious about your deen make your marriage search easier or harder?
For context: I’m a UK-based brother in my 30s, previously married for a short time. One of the painful realities I experienced was that as I became more committed to salah and practising properly, the gap in values became impossible to ignore.
Alhamdulillah, I don’t regret choosing deen but I’d be lying if I said the search afterwards felt straightforward.
Sometimes it feels like many say they want someone practising, but when “practising” actually means structuring life around prayer, Islamic boundaries and long term growth, the pool becomes smaller.
On the flip side, I’ve also noticed some of the most sincere people seem to be reverts, perhaps because their Islam is such a conscious choice.
Curious if others (especially brothers/sisters who prioritised deen later in life, divorcees, or reverts) found this too?
Not a rant, just an honest reflection and looking for perspectives.