Found my adult child’s sperm donor
We have a very unique adoption story. My child (now in their 20s) was carried by a surrogate for a different intended mother. It’s a complicated story but I was fortunate enough to become a mother through adoption from the surrogate. My child will soon be a parent, which has led to more curiosity about genetics. We have been in contact with the egg donor and have comprehensive health and family history. We are grateful to her for that! The intended mother asked her friend to donate sperm. There was so much secrecy surrounding his identity. When my child was a baby, we tried to get his health history but were denied, which seemed really odd? We recently did a DNA test,made it public, and discovered his identity. He’s extremely wealthy and high profile, which explains the secrecy. We simply want to approach him for health and family history. I’m certain his kids and other close relatives will discover the DNA connection at some point if they haven’t already. My child is naturally curious about their biological ties. I am too! We don’t care that the donor is high profile and wealthy, but it does complicate how we approach the situation and possibly complicates his willingness to share information.