common.. be a human please!
Is something wrong with her or what? Must be late stage already , Has anyone experienced this before? What would you even say?
My senior messaged me at night and asked whether me and another colleague “gang up” to get married.
“Pakat” is Malay, and literally means “ plotted together.”
Like… first of all, our wedding dates are only two weeks apart. We’re from different countries. How the hell are we supposed to pakat??!! So what, if our wedding dates are close together? What’s so surprising about that? There are only a few good dates to choose from anyway.
Can people actually pakat to get married meh? Our parents don’t need to know? We just sit down together and say, “Okay, you marry this date, I marry that date," Then maybe we pakat to 洞房 and gang up to have kids also lor?! Whether she meant it as a joke or not, the way she phrased it was damn off. The intention just didn’t feel clean.
She could’ve easily said, “Wah, you two really meant to be ah, wedding dates so close, what a beautifuL coincidence!”
Why must she always choose the worst possible interpretation of everything? And what I really don’t understand is — at work, she can be damn respectful to clients. So why can’t she show the same basic respect to her own colleagues?
Then she said HR would want to know, so I actually went to ask HR myself.
HR literally said:“Uh okok. Don’t need. I just need you to attach your marriage cert when you apply, and send via email as well. dont need invitation card”
I’m not expecting her to wish me well. I’m not asking her to be happy for me. But at least don’t drag yourself into my personal matters and make something so happy feel ugly. She’s already had too much face from me.
Honestly, I feel like fighting her upside down right now. But better cool down first. I don’t want to end up looking like I’m the one creating trouble. I’m really pissed!!