u/semidemiurge

It may be helpful in dating to understand some of the math.
Consider the following:
Only 15% of men or women are more attractive than 6.5 on a 0-10 scale. Many people will consider a person of the opposite sex and label them a 6ish in appearance, a "meh, I can do better", or "there are no sparks."
This is the same percentage for almost all traits as they follow a normal distribution.
Now let's consider the mathematics of probability. If we assume one personal characteristic does not affect the next, we multiply their individual probabilities. An example is in order here. The probability of being a 7 or above in appearance is 9%. Making $90k o more a year is about 1/3 or 33%, net worth at 55 of $500k or more is ~40%, between 50 and 64 are single ~30%. P=0.07x0.33x0.40x0.30 or about 2.5%.
This is just selecting for 4 characteristics; most people have many more bringing the already low 2.5% to 0.25% (1 in 400). The point being, most of us are deluded. We think the 1-in-1,000 of 1-in-10,000 possibility should be easier to find.
This does not even consider the odds that once you find your rare match, they will find you equally compelling.
Much of the frustration and angst with dating can be lessened by accepting the facts (read:math). The odds of success are abysmally low, and just live and go about your life and dating under this understanding.