15-year-old Adventist: I turned down a girl I have feelings for, and now I deeply regret it. What should I do?
Hello everyone. I am 15 years old, I am an Adventist. I want to ask for advice and prayers, because now I am in a very difficult emotional state.
I've been talking to a girl (not from the church) for a few years. During the last meeting, mutual feelings arose between us. She said she's been very attached to me over the years. I also felt sympathy for her, but when she offered to meet, I refused.
I explained that we cannot be together because of the difference in faith and its harmful habits that do not correspond to my beliefs. I thought she would turn away after that, but no. On the contrary, she said she was ready to change. I replied that you don't need to change for me, it should be her personal decision.
Now I am very sorry for my refusal. Feelings do not disappear, but only grow. I think about her all the time, although we hardly communicate. I pray to God that He will either take away these feelings, if it is not from Him, or show how to proceed. But there is no answer yet, and I feel exhausted.
I am well aware of the lyrics of the unfaithful yoke (2 Corinthians 6:14) and "do not awaken love until it wants its itself" (Song 2:7).
• Did I do the right thing by refusing?
• How to behave now and what to do with these feelings?
• How to deal with regret and not return to communication?
I would be very grateful for the Bible's advice and prayers.
Edited: Thank you to everyone who supported me with prayers and words of understanding and gave valuable advice. I listened to you and decided to stop communicating with her, because I started to get attached and keeping in touch as friends is just painful for me.