u/sgerardp

I have always been kinky and dominant. I find it comes quite naturally to me when I’m not involved with someone. When I do get attached I start feeling vulnerable emotionally and it kind of hinders my ability to be dominant.

I am seeing this guy for about a year and a half. We had a complicated dynamic for a long time. It started off as just sex with D/s dynamic but then involved feelings and then an abrupt break from my end. We have reconnected and now trying to take it slowly. Because I feel emotionally attached I’m always just worried about whether he’s feeling ok or if something I did was not ok for him or too much.
Last time I wanted to tie him up and edge him after we had sex but then I didn’t because I didn’t wanna “inconvenience” him because he wanted to cum right then. We recently had a conversation and I told him I want to return to the full D/s dynamic in sex now that we are reconnecting and he said he’s into that. I told him what I was intending to do last time when we were having sex but then I got into my head because I wanna be considerate of him and didn’t do it. And he said that yea usually when guys tell him they are gonna dominate him it doesn’t end up working because he has a big personality and unless they really go ahead and take charge it just feels fake.
This hurt me a bit and I got even more in my head.
Am I just lacking self confidence to go ahead and actually do the Dom stuff that I want? I don’t know why it feels so risky in a dating situation as opposed to when we started unattached I was very easily able to dominate him and I think he very much enjoyed being a sub.

Not sure if this is the right sub for this question but I recently had a very interesting interaction on a kink site. I have no background in hypnosis or even knew it existed as a kink.
This guy claims to be a hypnotist, let’s call him Jack, who has one guy he likes to hypnotize, let’s call him Dan, and make him do things. Jack wants to send Dan to me and tell me his trigger words so I can “put Dan under” and then make him do things or whatever I want. Apparently Dan is “Dom” so Jack makes him do sub stuff while under hypnosis. From what I read, you have to be pretty willing and cooperative to be hypnotized but Jack is making it sound like he has control over Dan and when he’s under hypnosis he will be the perfect sub.

Is this for real? What are the chances of this being a legally risky or some other scam situation. I don’t want someone coming back and accusing me of assault or whatever.