ENFPs, have you ever had a connection like this?
Hi ENFPs, there’s this ENFP coworker (31F) I’ve (33M) gotten close to over time.
We used to interact alot more openly in group settings with everyone else around in the past. But overtime it naturally shifted in which we barely even interact much during group settings anymore. But somehow always end up drifting back into our own 1 to 1 spaces/conversations away from everyone else instead.
We also hang out quite abit after work. None of this was ever really discussed or intentional, it just slowly.. became the norm?
It also seemed to me that regardless of whatever phase/state she is in.. excited, stressed, tired, bored. She somehow still naturally gravitates back towards me very consistently.
I think a big part of it is that around her, I would make space for her if she asks for my time. I listen, try to understand her properly, and usually just let her be herself without judgement. She told me herself that talking to me feels different than with most people.
I feel like this connection itself honestly doesn’t feel like it was built on obvious flirting or chasing. It feels more like over time we somehow just became very emotionally familiar with each other to the point where we naturally keep returning to each other’s space without even thinking much about it anymore.
Around me she also feels noticeably calmer and softer compared to her usual social energy.
I would think that to both of us, the whole thing still feels subtle and natural. But people around us have started telling me that the both of us are actually becoming fairly "obvious" already.
So I’m curious from an ENFP perspective.. when you consistently keep one specific person this close in such a quiet and unspoken way over a long period of time, what’s usually going on internally for you?