I think my parents are entitled/a*holes and hate me
Hi so I didn’t know where to post this but I figured here would be best. So I’m 18F almost 19 and I have been taking a lot of this to my friends and need an unbiased source on the situation. My current situation stands that I do not talk to my biological father and that side of the family, the parents in question are my mother and stepfather. They are bio parents to my 3 younger sisters.
To start from the beginning I’ve always had a rocky relationship with my parents and it being back and forth. I graduated high school last year and moved away to a university last fall. Before leaving my mom told me that she would help cosign on a loan but after I graduated it would all go to me and she wasn’t helping at all. My mom doesn’t have any student loans due to the fact that her parents paid for all of her undergrad degree. She also won’t allow me to ask my grandparents for help financially even when they’ve offered. The week after my family dropped me off at college they went away on an expensive vacation and didn’t tell me about it at all. They said that I should he grateful they helped me move in and I got to go to college so my sisters needed something for them. I let it go but this trip does come up later.
My first semester at college I struggled a lot with mental health and my grades were exceptionally low. I’ve struggled before but college amplified it. Over the course of the semester my mom wore me down and convinced me to come home due to the fact that I was struggling and wasn’t able to afford it by myself anymore. I transferred home to a local community college and am doing much better and on better medication with therapy.
Since transferring home my parents have done nothing but give me shit about what I’m doing with my life. Working a part-time job multiple days a week and going to school Monday-Thursday and having top grades is not enough for them. I am constantly told by my parents that I should be grateful they let me move back in and I need to start paying rent or helping around the house. I currently share a room with my youngest sister whom I have a 10+ year age gap with. My old room was given to my other sister a month after I moved away to college. I help around the house a lot by helping with laundry, dishes, my dogs, and any other housework. I also am constantly bringing things to my mom at work and sisters at school. I pick up my youngest sister from school every day before I go to work. Recently it was brought to my attention that I would be driving my sister to a day program multiple times a week. This would include all of the driving I do to work and my other sister, all without assistance from my parents.
My biggest thing recently is that my parents left me home alone for a week and over a holiday to take my sisters on another vacation. If I did go with them however, my mom told me I would have to pay almost $1,000 for my tickets as they wouldn’t pay for them. I did have school and work but was upset about them leaving me alone. My mom refused to speak to me about the vacation and when she did it seemed more that she was attempting to make herself feel better. On this vacation they made an incredibly big purchase while also telling me they have no money and asking me for help. I also am constantly under scrutiny from them and have strict rules. They have called me an alcoholic simply for going out with my friends one night a month. They call me fat when I go out to eat and say I waste my money on stupid stuff.
Overall, I think I am a pretty good kid. I keep straight A’s, I paid for this past semester at college and have a scholarship that covers all of my tuition, I have my own car all paid off by myself that I paid for title registration and insurance and all gas money, I pickup my sister from school everyday, and I work 5 days a week. I pay for groceries and help out with driving my sisters around if my parents are working late and watching my sisters and their friends. Of course, this isn’t all the information and other situations have led to me feeling this way such as my parents leaving me to fend for myself some nights and taking my other siblings out to dinner. My youngest sister constantly hitting and screaming at me and my parents permitting it. Giving my parents money and never receiving any of it back and being yelled at if I ask for it. If needed I am more than willing to provide additional situations that have led to this as well. I feel as though I am a third parent to my younger siblings. I just don’t know if I am overreacting or if my parents are truly not the greatest.