I’m [22F], my bf[22M] is very forgetful in our relationship doesn’t even remember the important stuffs!
I’m 22F who likes celebrating even little things in our life. Ok atleast birthdays, anniversaries and valentines day. I feel that’s the bare minimum. But my bf 22M is not someone who enjoys celebration ig. So i’ve told him atleast let’s celebrate both of our bdays and anniversary. We have been seeing each other for 2 years and gave the tagline relationship about 1yr back. Last year he forgot my bday and i was really sad and communicated that with him. He was like he forgot that date and he’s not good at remembering dates. Initially itself he told this. So i was like ok let it be we haven’t even given the relationship tagline maybe next yr he’ll remember this.Both last yr as well as this yr i was with him on his bday gave gifts made his day good( my love language is gifting).I was very happy for doing all tjose and making his day special. I can’t deny that i expected that in return. But not gift’s atleast a 12 am wish and few sentences on how he loves me or something like that :)
But yh he forgot my birthday this yr too! Like that day by evng he called me suddenly and said happy bday, i forgot to call yesterday night now only i remembered. I was really sad like too sad! I kinda had a gut feeling that he will forget it and the same happened. Another thing is 2 weeks before my birthday there was a situation where i needed to talk to him but he had drinking plan with his friends so i asked him whetehr he could drop that and stay with me. But he said he can’t he already made plans but i wanted him to stay with me and talk that day. These friends which he have been saying they meet twice or thrice a week so i felt that this drinking plan was deniable one. When he said no i asked him ok so u wanna be with me for my birthday( he told me before he will come to my place for celebrating birthday, we are in long distance)or go out with your friends today, he said he wants to go out with his friends. Ok i felt devastated that day when he chose his friends over something he knew i valued a lot.
Today is our anniversary that too 1st! He didn’t even wish me till now and i knw he forgot that too! At first he didn’t even knew the date then it was like i continuously asked him and taught the major dates. Why is he forgetting everything? If he loves me can’t he remember at least these!
I feel like the efforts are very low. Since we are in ldr obv bith of us should put in extra efforts. He says he love me care for me and all. But i’m not being loved the way i want and that too are the bare minimum tjings. 2-3 times I decided to end things. But he always says he’ll put in more effort he’ll change the things that should be changed and all. So I’m confused.
What to do?
TLDR: my bf is very forgetful. Didn’t remember my bday last yr and this yr. forgot our anniversary too. Didn’t even wish till now