When do you stop missing them?
I (25 F) left my narc husband in April after previously leaving twice. We were married for about 5 years which does not feel as long as others here. This is the longest I have made it without going back so I am proud of myself for that.
He was physically, verbally, emotionally abusive- typical narcissist in every single way. The trauma has left me with PTSD and several health conditions. I know that it was a horrible relationship, and I did not deserve to be treated that way. But there is a part of me that misses him, and I hate it.
Previously, I would just take all the blame for his behavior and apologize for everything to keep the peace and “resolve” the conflict. I did not do it this time. I don’t know if it is because there is no closure since he will not acknowledge how he has treated me or what he has done, or just because I spent years with him but I still miss him.
How long did it take once you had left your relationship with a narcissist to finally feel free and not like you are bound to missing them? Right now it feels impossible.