u/silverpox

Am I in the right place?

My partner has congenital heart disease. Had a pacemaker put in at 14 years old, had open heart surgery to have a ring put around their mitral valve at 19 years old. They are now 37, and the past 18 years have been pretty normal - they see the cardiologist yearly, and adjust their meds as needed. They are super active and there's not much they can't do.

The past 3 weeks have been anything but normal. They were admitted to the hospital in heart failure, were discharged after a bunch of tests and putting off a ton of retained fluid, and now they need another surgery. It might be open heart, or not. We don't know.

I am not the "well spouse" in the same way as a lot of other people. My partner doesn't have any cognitive challenges. They have very few physical limitations. But I'm having trouble finding the support I need so I can pour into them.

Thank you <3

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u/silverpox — 5 days ago