u/skincrawlerbot

this sounds insane when I type it out but bear with me

Went on a really nice date last weekend, everything was great, My bf is struggling a bit with money so I've been taking care of all the bills, i've given him my credit card because he said its embarassing for him when the waiter comes and im paying the bill so i let him pay it with my card but what he did really set me off

He apparently added my card to a betting app called coverd. which basically lets you use credit card points to bet on charges and.. paid for the dinner with it?? He thought it was hilarious and kind of thrilling. I was smiling in the moment because yay! free dinner, but the whole drive home it just sat weird with me.

Like... what if he hadn't won??

He keeps saying I'm overreacting because "it worked out" but that's exactly the kind of logic that drives me up the wall. It working out doesn't make him not broke. And I guess what really bothers me is I had zero say in it. The risk was just decided for me in the moment.

So I decided not to trust him with my card annymore and he went completely livid, started saying somethings like I was downplaying his masculinity or something in restaurants and do I not want to make the waiters and restaurants think I had a great bf who always pays my bills? like what?

I don't think he's a bad person or anything, I actually think he genuinely thought it was fun and spontaneous. I even used it myself now, but I have money. And something about not having transparency just rubs me the wrong way

Am I overreacting? Is this a "haha funny story" situation and I need to chill?