u/skylovesmistymoon

Location: Montana, United States of America

my parents (step mother and biological father) were discussing kicking me out after my biological mother planned a vacation over my step mother's birthday. when i tried to leave willingly and stay at my biological mother's home, they locked me out. they texted me that i was not allowed there, even with police.

since i was living 50/50 with my parents, a lot of my things that i and my biological mother have paid for are over there, i need them. i am missing a lot of clothing, shoes, my glasses were left, and support items. they are refusing to let me get my things and go.

do i have any legal ground at all? or do i just have to forget about it...

i am a 17f, turning 18 in a few days. my dad is 40m, step mom is 39f, and my biological mother is 37f.

i never had a good relationship with my step mom. she was very angry a lot over things that i never saw as a huge issue, or she would get angry with things my mother said, and would take it out on me. i knew i was not the favorite, and i was okay with it. they fought for custody an my mom fought back. they started telling me that my mom was manipulating me into not wanting to see them, and i believed it since i was just a child. now that i'm older, i don't think its true.

my mom hasn't been the best either, but she has been working on herself to get better for me.

on friday, i stood up for myself when my step mom started talking about things that did not matter and happened years ago (talking about how clothes she purchased should go to my sister instead of my cousin at my moms)... she was upset that i "did not agree that was right" when i never did say that or the opposite. i did let her know that was not the case and moved on.

i added on, that i was going to try to drive back from my vacation to get to my step mom's birthday, which was accidentally scheduled over my step moms birthday, and she freaked out and left. i understood because it was her birthday and all, but didn't think she should've taken it out on me. i left to go to my moms minutes after.

i worked that saturday and my sister came in after a parade and told me that she had overheard my step mom talking to my dad on the phone about kicking me out. i—already not feeling safe to go back due to her anger—decided to stay home with my mom instead of going with them to my grandparents house because i did not want to cause a scene with my hysterical crying.

i then decided that i was going to leave since they did not want me at the house anymore, and i would just love in with my mom. i texted them letting them know i was going to get my stuff from their house. when i arrived, they were not home and had removed the key they left out for me to get in, and locked all the doors. i was texted after about how i was "not in a good mental state of mind, and i would never do this." and that "all the claims are false" until i gave them proof of what she had said and she took it back. saying that i was not mentally stable to stay there, and they were considering it.

i asked for my things back and they refused once more, then added that they would be filing charges against money that i had accidentally spent with their card instead of my own. and also added on they would not be opening the door to me or a police officer.

i have clothes, shoes, safe keeps, makeup that i have bought, and that my mom has bought for me and they are not allowing me to get it. i have a cat there that was a gift to me in 2020 that my step mom did purchase for, but said i was taking once i moved out that they are refusing to give as well.

AITA? and any advice?