u/smexypisces

hello, ada yang punya rekoemendasi gynecologist di jakarta selatan/pusat? untuk cek kesehatan reproduksi aja sih, bukan yg spesifik program hamil ya tapiii

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23F, just started work (thankfully gaji udh 2 digit di belasan awal) working in banking industry di jakpus

keluarga toxic mampus, gw emg tinggal under my step dad's roof (my mom is toxic, my dad is just emotionally non existent lol) jd lg perkiraan how much should i save to move out as soon as i can.

gw bisa stay +- setahunan lg di rumah ortu by closing my ears, but the faster i can get out the better (for my mental health lol). gw ga disuruh bayar bills etc cmn emg diminta bantu2 aja dirumah beresin dll tp there are days dmn gw kerja capek boro2 beresin rumah, pulang tepar bsk kerja lg. tp nyokap ga mau pengertian. suami baru dia ga berguna, jd gw rasa it's bad to stay here. everything i do is wrong gt meski gw udh kasih solusi A (yg lebih efisien) tp klrg mau nya B (manual) things like that

question is, brp jumlah yg aman utk gw pegang sebagai dana darurat if i want to move out di jakarta? brp expense reasonable utk ngekos (btw gw gpp spend aga mahal krn i simply cannot live di kosan yg cmn tembok ga ada sirkulasi dll i go crazy, i need a space so i can focus on work and rest juga)?

"aman" dalam artian incase gw ada emergency apapun, tabungan DD gw masih byk, amit2 kena layoff/phk (low chance for the program i'm in) gw ttp bisa survive tanpa harus hubungin parents for help.

also, apa lg biaya2/finansial yg hrs disiapin sebelum move out? better kosan atau apart? any tips yg bisa membantu gueee.

thank you so much

asking desperately xoxo

girls and gays (and guys).... i have this problem, my hobbies are too expensive lol (tennis, travel, yoga, eat good food). i genuinely think my hobbies are the only things keeping me sane and happy. kyk diem dikit lgsg sedih mellow nangis terus. it's like i'm in this neverending loop. is it just purely that i enjoy these hobbies or am i impulsively trying to run away from the sadness in me

hi, boleh sharing dong, progres kenaikan gaji kalian dari tahun ke tahun (mulai dari gaji pertama sampe skrg) terus berapa kali pindah perusahaan? kenaikannya gaji brp %? naik gaji paling signifikan pas milestone apa? terus tips dari kalian untuk yang mau naikin income (selain punya source of income lain)

purely just curious, sebagai motivasi jg deh

guyss since di indonesia tuh patriarki kental bgt ya, apalagi ibu2 boomers jd kental patriarki nya sampe daughters mereka jd korban. meskipun aku sangat percayaa generasi terbaruu kita ni higher quality, udh pada pinter and gak patriarki, but i was wondering, how long do u think it would take for indonesians untuk menghilangkan patriarki? gak menghilangkan deh, setidaknya ratio yg patriarki vs yg ngga patriarki lebih tinggi yg ngga patriarki.

mikir bgt, i hate being in my family, bener2 i'm surviving on my own, my family kyk destructing each other. lg mikir mau kerja keras & then live abroad permanently hahaa apalagi kalo udh punya pasangan, i want us to build a FRESH start from zero bener2 cut off every single person from my family sampe ga ada yg bisa reach out aku. hapus all history of my family. bcs i think, the change here is gonna be soooooo long.

menurut kalian masa dpn sdm indonesia akan membaik ga....