My (22M) GF (21F) had a FFM threesome less than a year before we met. How do I get over it?
I’m planning on proposing to my amazing GF in a few months. She’s absolutely amazing and has never given me a reason to worry about anything. We both have had a sexual past, have an exactly equal body count, and that has never bothered me because I have no right to be bothered by it. Pretty early on she asked me if I’d ever had a threesome before when she was drunk. I said no, and asked her why she asked. She’s Bi so I didn’t know if that was an ask to have one or for another reason, but she just confessed to having had a FFM one.
It was with someone who ironically enough tried to get my ex GF into one and a dude who she doesn’t even know his name. In her words, she was incredibly drunk and this girl pretty much just pulled her into it, and the only act she did with the guy was penetrative sex and no foreplay or anything. Even still, every once in a while I’ll just get reminded of the fact she had one and the idea of her pretty much fighting over a dudes dick with another girl makes me want to puke. She says she really regretted it and apparently scrubbed her whole body for like a straight week but the idea of my girlfriend stooping to the level of a threesome (which I find incredibly disgusting) awful.
I also want to get the “but you would have done it if you were the guy in that situation” out of the way. I have been offered a threesome in the same format multiple times and have turned it down every time. Anyways, I just don’t know where to go from here. The idea of her fighting with another girl to please a random guy just kills me. How do I get over it? At this point, my brains telling me I would need a play by play of that whole experience just to remove the disgusting images in my brain but I don’t think that’d actually help in any way.