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Basically the title. So I ask this because I think this is a personal matter folks in bands who play shows regularly can perhaps relate to. I (34M) was briefly dating this woman (38) and she had always wanted to see my band play, but the scheduling just never worked out. Well, after our last and final date where I wanted to keep things moving along steadily into more relationship territory, she politely told me she wasn't feeling the same way now and wanted to just remain friends. OK. Totally cool with me. But then leaves the whole band shows thing in a weird place. She last told me before our last meeting that she would definitely want to check my band out this summer. But my question is, am I still obligated to invite her? We have a gig coming up next week, and she sees all our band posts announcing upcoming gigs on IG, so I just wonder like, maybe she is still expecting me to invite her? Or maybe she isn't? I personally don't want to invite her, because I feel it would just be too awkward for me and make me think she were still interested in me. I want to politely "move on", but part of me feels like I still "should" invite her.

My bandmates were all excited for me to bring her to our next show, so I guess I still could, but I don't know... I feel like it would feel to much like she were my "date", like as if she were going to see her boyfriend play. But then I would feel guilty if I don't invite her and she ends up seeing the band show posts the next day... Or maybe she would just "understand" why I didn't invite her... I don't know! I still don't know what appropriate "show" etiquette I should practice here in this situation and I feel like people here could perhaps relate? What should I do? I still have heavy feelings for her and sure, yeah she really likes my band, but if she were at the show supporting me it would be really hard for me to not "feel" like she was my girlfriend, even if I know it would be platonic. I feel like me "not inviting her" and just saying nothing might make it seem like I am being petty and immature... Sorry for the ramble and this being slightly off-topic!

Hello, so for a project presentation I am doing on heat pump efficiency issues, I am trying to clearly explain all of the energy and comfort issues that will be seen when heat pumps are oversized. For this presentation slide, I am going to have an image of an air-source heat pump schematic diagram, such as showing the indoor unit/coil, the compressor, reversing valve, and outdoor unit/coil, all connected via the refrigerant line facilitating the vapor compression cycle.

What I want to do is “label” this diagram to locate where each equipment oversizing “consequence” will occur. I know the biggest consequence of heat pump oversizing will be short cycling, which leads to a whole array of energy and comfort consequences. I want to explain all of this, but in a very visually simulating and intuitive way. My idea then is to connect little text boxes showing each “consequence” to where they occur on the diagram. Those “consequence” boxes would then lead to other “symptom” boxes.

For instance, here is what I have so far:

"Frozen outdoor coil" pointing to outdoor coil > “increased defrost cycling” > “winter discomfort”

“Short cycling” pointing to compressor > “compressor damage” > “energy waste”

These points I am not sure how to organize and what to point to and connect:

“Poor humidity control” > “mold growth”

“Frozen indoor coil”

“Reduced comfort from Cold/hot spots due to poor air mixing”

“Increased auxiliary resistance heating energy”

I wanted to ask the heat pump enthusiast here, am I properly capturing all of the heat pump “consequences” that result from short cycling and what their “symptoms” are in terms of energy and comfort? Or am I critically misunderstanding some of these mechanisms and consequences? Or maybe my idea of distinguishing oversizing "consequences" and "symptoms" is too wonky? I would really appreciate any help because I am not sure I am understanding equipment oversizing issues as well as I should.

For reference, this is the heat pump diagram I have added to so far:

https://preview.redd.it/v7l0xnznc9gh1.png?width=1802&format=png&auto=webp&s=cfb7491c28817ad322c66914c286c19dbb2e76b0

Did I get this right, or am I way off? Thank you kindly!

I (M33) felt I really hit it off with this woman (38) I met from Hinge, and after meeting up three times, I felt so comfortable around her. But I am just getting so discouraged by her unenthusiastic and dry texting style. Like in person it's like she's glowing with personality and so sweet and caring, and I just feel myself melt sitting next to her. But when I try to engage her in conversation over text, I just feel so stupid. I put so much effort into thinking of the most kind, thoughtful, playful, and engaging texts I can, making sure I ask her about her interesting questions about what she is up to and what is on her mind. And... I just get these super brief dry responses. Like I will get excited getting a response from her, but I still just kinda dread opening it, because it's like... oh great... Will I finally get a response that is more than one single line? Her texts just feel so brief and dismissive, it gives me the vibe of "dude, she just isn't into you... you should move on." But then I see her in person and it's like totally different, I feel like she is so excited to see me.

I am so confused. I understand that people are going to be like "dude... you are... how old...? and you are whining about how to text someone?? Grow up! You shouldn't even be dating!" But like... honestly texting is just how dates get planned these days! And I am just so tired of putting effort into planning out these whole elaborate date ideas through text, and just getting a brief response like "oh, OK, sounds cool." Or should I just accept that this is just how some people text? It's just hard to not feel a bit unwanted when reading the texts... I would appreciate any perspective here! Thanks!

Hello, so for a project presentation I am doing on heat pump efficiency issues, I am trying to clearly explain all of the energy and comfort issues that will be seen when heat pumps are oversized. For this presentation slide, I am going to have an image of an air-source heat pump schematic diagram, such as showing the indoor unit/coil, the compressor, reversing valve, and outdoor unit/coil, all connected via the refrigerant line facilitating the vapor compression cycle.

What I want to do is “label” this diagram to locate where each equipment oversizing “consequence” will occur. I know the biggest consequence of heat pump oversizing will be short cycling, which leads to a whole array of energy and comfort consequences. I want to explain all of this, but in a very visually simulating and intuitive way. My idea then is to connect little text boxes showing each “consequence” to where they occur on the diagram. Those “consequence” boxes would then lead to other “symptom” boxes.

For instance, here is what I have so far:

"Frozen outdoor coil" pointing to outdoor coil > “increased defrost cycling” > “winter discomfort”

“Short cycling” pointing to compressor > “compressor damage” > “energy waste”

These points I am not sure how to organize and what to point to and connect:

“Poor humidity control” > “mold growth”

“Frozen indoor coil”

“Reduced comfort from Cold/hot spots due to poor air mixing”

“Increased auxiliary resistance heating energy”

I wanted to ask the heat pump enthusiast here, am I properly capturing all of the heat pump “consequences” that result from short cycling and what their “symptoms” are in terms of energy and comfort? Or am I critically misunderstanding some of these mechanisms and consequences? Or maybe my idea of distinguishing oversizing "consequences" and "symptoms" is too wonky? I would really appreciate any help because I am not sure I am understanding equipment oversizing issues as well as I should.

For reference, this is the heat pump diagram I am trying to "label":

https://preview.redd.it/fuy9sztyh2fh1.png?width=768&format=png&auto=webp&s=0bf952827843fe718646ac0f8e04bcc556b83a85

Source: https://www.newntide.com/blog/simple-diagrams-and-operation-guide-of-heat-pump/

Thanks!

Hello, so for a project presentation I am doing on heat pump efficiency issues, I am trying to clearly explain all of the energy and comfort issues that will be seen when heat pumps are oversized. For this presentation slide, I am going to have an image of an air-source heat pump schematic diagram, such as showing the indoor unit/coil, the compressor, reversing valve, and outdoor unit/coil, all connected via the refrigerant line facilitating the vapor compression cycle.

What I want to do is “label” this diagram to locate where each equipment oversizing “consequence” will occur. I know the biggest consequence of heat pump oversizing will be short cycling, which leads to a whole array of energy and comfort consequences. I want to explain all of this, but in a very visually simulating and intuitive way. My idea then is to connect little text boxes showing each “consequence” to where they occur on the diagram. Those “consequence” boxes would then lead to other “symptom” boxes.

For instance, here is what I have so far:

"Frozen outdoor coil" pointing to outdoor coil > “increased defrost cycling” > “winter discomfort”

“Short cycling” pointing to compressor > “compressor damage” > “energy waste”

These points I am not sure how to organize and what to point to and connect:

“Poor humidity control” > “mold growth”

“Frozen indoor coil”

“Reduced comfort from Cold/hot spots due to poor air mixing”

“Increased auxiliary resistance heating energy”

I wanted to ask the heat pump enthusiast here, am I properly capturing all of the heat pump “consequences” that result from short cycling and what their “symptoms” are in terms of energy and comfort? Or am I critically misunderstanding some of these mechanisms and consequences? Or maybe my idea of distinguishing oversizing "consequences" and "symptoms" is too wonky? I would really appreciate any help because I am not sure I am understanding equipment oversizing issues as well as I should.

For reference, this is the heat pump diagram I am trying to "label":

https://preview.redd.it/bbouc72d02fh1.png?width=768&format=png&auto=webp&s=1c95534e744b8105c5c3f1fc9760c3cf9081d670

Source: https://www.newntide.com/blog/simple-diagrams-and-operation-guide-of-heat-pump/

Thanks!

I am treading into dangerous territory here with this actually truly unpopular opinion, but I feel we are all familiar with the common sentiment trope of someone diminishing our own struggles in life simply because we didn't have to do it while having "x" number of kids to raise. Or there is the common sentiment of our hopes, dreams, and achievements in overcoming traumatic life obstacles being entirely downplayed next to someone who is "just trying to feed their family". It's as if we are reduced to nothing but sheltered children who know absolutely nothing about the real world and can never experience true struggle, it is infantilizing, it is dehumanizing. Do I resent you for having kids? No, not at all, you seem like a solid person and I absolutely believe that you love your family and children and would do anything for them! But you "just trying to feed your family" is not a blanket permission slip to denigrate, disparage, and belittle anyone you want. I feel like we have all experienced this, basically being told to "shut up and sit down" because we can't possibly relate to the hardship of doing life while raising kids. Still, in many ways I agree with the sentiment, because yes, I of course know it must be astoundingly difficult to raise kids, especially in this day and age.

Or you know, the sentiment of sharing with someone a dream you are happy to pursue, and the person just going "wow. Must be nice. All while some of us have real jobs and families to feed." You know that condescending dismissive tone I am getting at. Oh you want to go to grad school, start a band, travel the world, become a visual artist? Selfish! But when you mention trying to have kids? Everyone lights up as if you are doing the most wholesome, commendable, and selfless act ever, and suddenly nobody wants to hear about those dumb art school plans of yours. But what I have grown increasingly annoyed with is the more increasingly common sentiment that everyone must feel sorry for parents, simply because they made the sacrifice to have kids, such that yes, we need to "shut up" about our own problems, because our own struggles mean nothing. We hear this non-stop echoed in political messaging on BOTH sides of the aisle, where a political or economic issue ONLY matters if it affects "real average everyday FAMILIES", as if you are only entitled to a decent job if you have a FAMILY to feed. It is as if struggling adults without children just don't even matter?

And so I would say, as my truly, truly, horrible opinion, no one forced you to have kids, and you are not a victim for it (unless of course there was any sort of non-consensual coercion, in which case, yeah that is beyond fucked up, and I empathize with you entirely!) . *OK I said it! Please don't hurt me!!* I will problem remove this post after I get enough abuse for posting it...

So don't get me wrong, I love playing gigs with my band, but as we get more recognized locally, we are starting to get asked to play a lot, and this often has me feeling overwhelmed. I am a very introverted person and deal with social anxiety, so the idea of a "big show" coming up makes my anxiety boil. However, as a sort of anxiety-coping "safety mechanism", I have tried to get myself to just "not really care" about upcoming shows, not because I don't actually care (I do and I want to play as well as I can), but because my anxiety just cannot handle the anticipation. Like I get it, let's say you are a bunch of young musicians and you have a show at the end of the month at the local coffee shop or a local venue, and this becomes the "big show". Every day you think about it. You are nervous about it. You are excited about it. But most of all, you are becoming anxious about it. That makes total sense, and for our first few shows, this is what it was like. We had multiple band practices a week for our first few shows because we were all nervous about "getting it right". But now a few years later where we are all pretty seasoned with playing gigs, and know all our material pretty well, we all just kinda... "roll with it", for lack of better words.

We don't practice as much because we already know the songs, and I mean, we all have other life obligations keeping us occupied. Still, we get asked to play a lot, like a show a week sometimes. I CANNOT manage the anxiety of having a "big show!" every single weekend. I cannot live in constant anticipation anxiety over having a "huge event going on" this weekend. And so I sort of just... "compartmentalize" that anticipation, and kind of tell myself "whatever. no big deal. You know the songs. Just have fun with it". Otherwise I would just totally crash out from the anxiety. Yes, we will be playing a huge festival soon and then a pretty big concert hall, but like... OK cool? What am I supposed to do with that information? Freak out that much more? All that talk of "ooooohhh wooowww, are you nneeerrrvvVOOooUUuuSSssss??" I just kinda... quiet that voice in my head y'know? It's the only way to keep myself sane in all of this. I figured this might just be because I am super introverted and hate drawing attention to myself, but maybe other folks here can relate to this?

This is so difficult... the technical writing... the narrative... the value proposition... sounding like I know enough but not sounding too esoteric and "academic"... I have like 20 pages to write, but honestly sometimes I will spend literally like HOURS just writing a few sentences. Oh and finding a citation to support that sentence? That might take another whole hour! I feel my writing in my PhD has just gotten so... slow? I remember in undergrad I used to blast through essays like it was nothing, but now literally just writing a freaking intro paragraph... literally taking me hours... scratch "draft" sentences all over the page... uggh... can anyone relate? Maybe I am being too harsh on myself and sometimes certain sentences really ARE just hard to write? And yet there are people who bust out whole academic parties in like a week and I am like damn... maybe I just am falling behind...

So basically I am just wondering how different bands here handle social media presence and whether the one handling the social media posting, particular on Instagram, has ever rubbed you the wrong way or just straight up embarrassed you. I am talking like getting posted on "inappropriate" or straight up silly gig flyers, your bandmate making offensive or lewd comments on a band post, or someone posting unflattering photos of you in a new post from a recent show. Or at the same time, do you ever just cringe at how much your band posts? Like nonstop IG stories and posts? I sometimes check my IG and see like everyday several new posts about our band, and I sometimes just feel overwhelmed and just feel like ughhh... please slow down with the social media blasting... I don't want to see my face plastered all over IG every time I open my phone... And just seeing every other story posting the same material from our band. I worry our follows just see as super cringey and desperate and annoying at this point. We have one band member who handles our IG, and I feel like they just enjoy it... too much. It's like they treat it like their day job, like it's just nonstop posting, and it just makes me feel a bit uncomfortable, because it just doesn't reflect me much as a person... I am a quiet introverted person and the nonstop posting just makes it seem like I am being super aggressive about wanting EVERYONE to show up at EVERY show we play. I feel at a certain point all of the posting just gives cringey bathroom selfie vibes of like "good morning, thought I looked good just now, like my post!" y'know?

How do you all feel about this? I of course feel conflicted in feeling this way, because while the posting might make me feel uncomfortable, another part of me thinks "dude, you should honestly be grateful your band mate puts so much effort into moving your band forward while it sounds like you are doing nothing". Or perhaps the sentiment could be "you gotta promote, nonstop, promote, promote, and then promote some more. If you want to slow that down, it sounds like you are just in the way of the band and should probably just quit. Either get used to promoting or don't play in a band." Honestly, I get it, I do. Which is why I was hoping to hear some outside perspective on this, as I am totally open to being called out for being unreasonable. Thanks!

I am quite disappointed with the Anker Prime power bank I just bought! I spent like $130 on this power bank and basically expected it to last me all day essentially charging both my Samsung Galaxy book laptop and iPhone 12. However, charging this power bank up to 100%, and using it to charge my dead laptop, I saw the power percentage on the power bank slowly start dropping from 100% to 98% to 92% to 85% almost in real time. My laptop was now at around half-charge when I saw that the power bank was already completely depleted and needed to be recharged. What gives? I was here thinking I basically bought the Mercedes Benz of laptop portable charging power banks! Or is this charging capacity actually expected for the power bank I just bought and I really have no idea what I am talking about? I could use some perspective please, thanks!

Just curious, like if there are clothing items from brands you really like that when you wear at home and look in the mirror think wow, I totally rock this, I look freaking cool in this! This item makes me look great! But when you wear it in public get self-conscious and feel like you don't have the confidence to wear it? Like a clothing item you really "want" to wear, but feel like you have "no business" wearing? Like a clothing item you don't feel like you "have the right to wear"? Like where you almost feel you are inauthentically "cosplaying" a whole subculture just because you think they have cool clothes?

What I mean by this is articles like: Rocking Carhartt gear because you genuinely think it looks cool and looks good on you, but know darn well you do no actual labor because you have a cushy office tech job.

Or rocking a really cool sports Jersey form your hometown, but actually don't know a darn thing about the game or the team itself.

Or sporting old skool vans even though you don't skate

Or wearing a preppy style even though your background has nothing to do with the East Coast and you have never been to Martha's Vineyard, and you go to your local community college in the Pacific Northwest, not the Ivy League.

Or you want to wear a really cool band t-shirt, but only just recently started getting into the band.

Or you pick up a really cool looking plaid western pearl snap shirt up at the local thrift, but know you grew up in Brooklyn and have never even stepped foot on an actual farm before.

You get the idea already! Do you ever feel this? What clothing item is this for you? Do you wear the clothing item anyway?

Whole article on why young people aren't dating from NPR:

https://www.marketplace.org/story/2026/06/25/gen-z-opts-for-solomaxxing-to-escape-dateflation

Surprise! They blame it all on the high cost of dating! That's it!! It's just finances! Dates are expensive! Of course, they never mentioned the expectations of the guy having to pay for everything! The fear every guy has of "getting posted" just for approaching! The soul crushing experience of waking up to once again zero matches when you told yourself it was time to "get back out there" after getting ghosted by the person you thought you wanted to spend the rest of your life with. Gee! I had no idea the cure to all of this was just a $20 stimulus check so that guys could take their dates to get coffee! Guys I figured it out! If we somehow just gave every single guy a $20 bill they could literally go on a date THIS evening!! I didn't know it was just costs that is why men can't get dates anymore!

EDIT: *completely misses the plot* Darn typo!!

Hello, so I am wondering if folks' families here tend to always come to their gigs and whether you are generally happy about it or not. And for the record, I mean parents, and perhaps aunts and uncles and grandparents, and NOT your spouse, because I feel that is just a totally different dynamic. I also feel like siblings would be a different situation too. I also mean this for adult band members, such that your parents aren't playing a chaperone role at gigs, but are more just concert guests. For this post I am mainly talking about gigs at local venues and clubs.

Do you like when your family shows up at gigs? If they don't show up, do you wish they did? I am in a situation where my parents and sometimes more family are at all of my gigs, like all of them, to the point where it just feels overwhelming. The situation is usually not me deliberately inviting my parents, but rather a family member seeing our show flyer announced on Instagram and telling my parents about it, or my parents just continually asking me when my next gig is and if they can come. I just give in and say OK you are welcome to come.

On one hand, sure it is nice to have the support from my family, of course, I am grateful for that, but sometimes I just don't like it. They can be embarrassing, and I mean like peak embarrassing. Like my dad trying to flirt (friendly, not seriously flirt because my mom is there too) with the female band members in the others bands or just clinging to me in general and discussing very personal matters in the open while my bandmates want to share a drink with me or something. You get the idea. I feel like playing and hanging out at shows is supposed to be fun, and honestly, I just don't have that same fun when my parents and family are there. I just don't feel like I can truly "let loose" and just have fun the same way. I just feel like I am giving a talent show performance for my family. I don't feel like I have as much carefree fun just rocking out and "going crazy", and so I will mostly just stand still and not move around a lot when I'm playing on stage. I don't know, I just feel too self-conscious when my parents are watching me, I can't explain it.

So do you like when your parents and larger family come to your gigs? Maybe sometimes but not to all gigs? Do you set boundaries here? Or am I being totally ungrateful and unreasonable and should just stop complaining already? I am just trying to get a reality check here and gain some perspective is all. Thank you.

Hello, so I am looking for a reliable power bank chargers that can power my laptop and phone while I work at a cafe, since I am tired of running into situations where I sit down, only to find my Samsung Galaxybook laptop only has 10% charge left and there are no outlets nearby. I want a sleek and slim power bank that I can fit in my backpack that I can simply set down on the table and be totally powered up with.

I found this "NOBIS portable charger power bank":

https://www.amazon.com/NOBIS-Portable-Charger-20000mAh-Charging/dp/B0G1GSWWXS

It is 65W 20000mAh. I am a bit new to the power bank market, so I am not sure how to properly assess these specs. Does this look like a good power bank? Not going to lie that I was quite drawn to the sleek design of this gadget, but of course, aesthetics only go so far. Do you think this would be reliable as a power source for any "work-from-cafe"-type ordeal?

There is also the "JUOVI" brand of this same exact produce:

https://www.amazon.com/JUOVI-20000mAh-Portable-Charging-External/dp/B0FWR98WX5

I have honestly know clue how to distinguish these two brands. They look like your typical generic "drop-shipped" made-up brands, but maybe they are still OK? Is 65W/20,000mAh enough you think? Would you buy this? Thanks!

I keep seeing so many posts here about partners cheating, and how if someone's partner goes to business school it means they will likely cheat. I just don't get it though, what is it about an MBA program that just out of nowhere presents all these opportunities for hooking up? I really don't get it. I have been through college and graduate school, and sure there were parties and bar hopping nights, but ultimately people just kinda hung out and were friendly, and people who were intimate were usually already partnered. The way people make it sound here is like there is just this constant non-stop schedule of ragers in business school. Like is that actually how it happens? I would have thought social events would be much more professional, like business casual attire, people mingling around with cocktails and discussing summer internship opportunities, startup ideas, and summer break plans with their partners on the Amalfi Coast. Where the heck does hooking up and cheating even come into the equation? Is there like a "singles" group chat or something? I am asking about specifically hooking up with people in the MBA and not just dating or "getting on the apps" in a new city. Like there must be some sort of "hookup" group chat going around that only the "attractive" people get invited into and you just kinda work things out from there? Genuinely curious about this because in my program socializing never went anywhere beyond department happy hours and the occasional cohort movie night, with absolutely freaking no hooking up whatsoever. Again, people were already partnered. For the record, I am NOT trying to talk down to, mock, or disrespect MBA programs, I am simply just curious what it is about MBA programs that both harbor and provide so much opportunity for this type of behavior, whether it explicitly cheating, or just hooking up in general.

Like I am literally here still just bumbling around a few lousy sketchy paragraphs that still sound terrible, just trying to coherently describe the methods I did and the results I got and what they mean. It all sounds like an incoherent outline of sentences like "I ran the study and it was really complicated, but we ended up with really interesting results" or "we finally found that treatment A had a bigger impact on sample C than treatment B" or "Though we need to acknowledge that lots of other big studies also talked about this topic already, but we did something new where we also considered a new predictor variable in the model". Basically just outline scribble. It sounds like a disorganized sloppy mess written by someone who barely knows how to write!

I have been working on this all week. Like I still just have a few pages. The writing is terrible, and I don't even have sources organized. Yet people here talk about busting out a whole publish-ready manuscript in a week? Like honestly, how do you do it? And I am specifically talking about people like myself who are working alone, with no help from no one, not even your advisor, because they basically cannot be bothered. And no AI. AI does not count here.

I have expressed my struggles with writing academically and have been told that no, the manuscript is not at all the hard part. You already have the methods and results, so putting it into words should be quick and easy. OK, fair enough, but like how are you actually getting yourself to write the manuscript that fast? I am not trying to sound smart or confrontational here, I am genuinely asking, because I want to learn how you do it because I am in awe of your skill and mastery!

I am still in disbelief. No way. No way this can be true. I have been working on this for about half a year now. I thought I read all the papers already. My idea was so weird and niche, totally outside the box, something only an outsider who "doesn't belong" like myself could think of. But I was sorting it all out! I was working out the methods! I was organizing the research timeline, the workflow, the data processing and analysis, everything. I even had initial results and plots! I was finally starting to get my advisor to support this idea after thinking it was too weird. And just as I am checking a formula, find out the entire idea, like actually almost identical to my whole idea, was already published in 2024. Yup, all the same keywords, concepts, datasets, modeling software packages, contexts, key metrics, all of it. Already published. As if some magical fairy detective went into my head through my dreams and time traveled back two years ago to publish all my work. It is almost eerie how much their paper resembles what I was planning to publish this whole time. And now I am just left stunned and frustrated, having no idea how to proceed now, but mostly just stunned at this actually being real. This is so uncanny it almost feels surreal, like I am being completely gaslit, made fun of and basically scolded by my advisor for ever wasting their time with such a half-baked lofty idea, only to see that very idea already a fully published piece of literature, but just by other authors.

Sorry, I am just crashing out now because a huge chunk of my dissertation was based on this idea, and all it took was this one conference paper I just never saw before to totally derail all of it. I am sorry, I am not trying to sound like a bitter ungrateful resentful poor sport here, I was just genuinely disappointed because my research has become my life and I take it so seriously and spent a good three years trying to prove these ideas to my professors who only finally just recently just started taking me seriously...

Trying to think how to "triple" email your advisor after being ignored for a month and not wanting to sound annoying, but there is literally no other way to write "I hope you are well".

Debugging python code only to realize you overwrote your source data csv and now cannot proceed with any new analysis.

Now having to find the script that produced that "source" csv file within an endless sea of 'untitled_xxx.ipynb' files across multiple directories.

Searching endlessly online for that one perfect "Goldilocks" conference paper that is the reference that gives credibility to your entire introduction section and analytical hypothesis. It's been 4 days searching. You start questioning if that source even existed to begin with.

Spending literally a whole week trying to get a 10,037 word manuscript down to 10,000 words for a journal submission, but literally every single word is necessary, unless we want to start dropping citations.

Sending out the 5th "When2meet" form to organize your qualifying exam with your committee after spending literally over an hour painstakingly cross-referencing multiple google calendar conflicts

staring into the void for a good 45 minutes straight after you saw a "colleague" you met at a conference a while ago just publish the idea you shared with them that has been your passion project for the past three years. It has over 300 likes on LinkedIn

Realizing absolutely none of this makes you any more of an expert on your research topic.

I could go on...

They all just get uploaded as black squares. I can't figure this out!

Hello, so I am simply trying to post some photos and a brief bio to the threads, but each time I try posting from the app, the photos I post are just black squares. And then I try the work around to post from my iPhone photos gallery, and I see the post getting uploaded and suddenly the whole app closes, with the post never getting posted. I then see the post "faded" under my "threads" and see "Post failed to upload". And each time I "retry" to repost, it just keeps showing me "Post failed to upload". Has anyone had this problem before? I tried deleting and reinstalling the app and this did not fix the issue.