u/soil_with_bugs_in_it

This is kind of a weird and specific question but here it goes-

I don't have aphantasia but my girlfriend does. She recently got a job as a manager and is having a really hard time setting boundaries for herself with work.

In these kinds of instances, what I would do is imagine a container and put everything having to do with work in it for the weekend and pull it all out on Monday. She can't visualize a container and this is really affecting her mental health. I feel useless to help her.

Just wondering if any of you have some helpful tips for getting yourself to stop thinking about work when you're not there that don't involve visualizations. She also doesn't have an internal monologue.

My puppy is a 7 month old Chihuahua/Maltese mix and he is so scared of his harness. I think I inadvertently traumatized him with his first one (it was uncomfortable for him and he didn't like the Velcro noise). I got him a new clip on, a step in harness. He has to wear one on walks due to his small size and risk of Collapsed trachea. He is terrified of it! I opened the package and he ran under the coffee table.

He is also suddenly afraid of the nail clippers. I diligently worked with him for months to avoid this but suddenly he will run at the sight of them and squirm when I try to clip his nails. So I'm going back to basics with that too.

Anyway, I want to condition him to tolerate both of these activities as they are non-negotiable in relation to his health and well-being.

Can I do that in succession? Like work with him with the harness and then the clippers an hour later? I don't know how long it's going to take because he's setting the pace and his nails are getting pretty long, I don't want to risk a snagged dewclaw (I've seen it working in shelter medicine, it's not a fun time for anyone involved). And with the harness, I really don't like him using a collar for walks because he hacks and chokes himself and it stresses me out.

Any help is appreciated. I don't want to overwhelm him but these are important things.

I recently had to go in to see my auto insurance agent. I've been with him for a decade now and we were bullshitting about finances and how I'm saving to buy a house. I told him I'm trying to save money wherever I can and he offered to get me a new quote through another company he works with. I had full coverage insurance (I bought my vehicle 10 years ago and never changed it) and he said I could probably go down to liability and save more if I felt comfortable with that. I ended up doing it and it's saving me an extra $100/month.

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He's a great guy and I'm not complaining at all, but I'm just wondering why would he want to save me money if he is making commission off of my premiums? What incentivises insurance agents to get you the lowest rate possible when their job is to sell insurance?

Hello! I am considering becoming a realtor as a part time gig. There are some concerns I have with this and I would like some insight.

Firstly, the flexibility and seasonal aspect of the work really appeals to me! Here is my main question:

I currently work a weird schedule (11-7 with one day off during the week and every other weekend with short days on Sunday which are 4-7). Can I make this work in this career field? I know availability and ability to travel are pretty big and this mid-day schedule is worrying me, as well as my weekend availability because I know buying clients usually view homes over the weekend.

I don't know, just kind of rolling the idea around in my head, seeing the possibilities. Thanks!

My puppy is just about 5 months old and he has shown resource guarding behavior for the first time ever. I have had him for two months and he's a Chihuahua/Maltese mix.

Sooo basically I got him a pup cup and I was trying to take a picture of him with it (it was his first one) and I went to just move it a little to get a better angle and my boy snapped at me. He didn't bite and I don't think he had the intention to, he just basically said "hey I'm eating that!" So I backed off and let him finish his snack in peace.

Anyway, in the moment I felt I had somehow failed him and I'm a terrible dog parent and all those woe-is-me type of things. But I guess I'm just wondering if there's anything I need to do to address this behavior and nip it in the bud. There are so many different answers I got from people and I'm getting confused.

Here are the things I've considered:

-Not getting pup cups anymore (I don't *love* this one cause he clearly enjoyed it enough to guard it).

-getting him pup cups and holding them while he eats them.

-getting him pup cups and leaving him alone completely.

Which one of these builds the most trust and doesn't reinforce the behavior? Is there a secret 4th option I'm not thinking of?

He hasn't done this with anything else. I've been able to take away cat toys, his toys, and anything he's gotten ahold of that he's not supposed to have. Since this incident, I have started trading for treats, though.