TW: Do you ever feel dysphoric when certain people use your preferred pronouns?
I'm trying to figure out how to articulate this...
When I first started using they/them pronouns, it felt euphoric no matter who used those pronouns for me. It still feels euphoric depending on who uses my pronouns. But after a while, I noticed a difference in the way it felt when certain people used my preferred pronouns. In the early days, I was just so grateful to anyone who made an effort. I still am even though it's the bare minimum. But every once in a while someone, a coworker, neighbor, well-meaning family member, will correctly gender me, but it feels the same as being she/her'd (herred?). It's like I can still see the label "girl" in their eyes...and it just wounds me. I know most people will never truly see us. Whether or not people understand or accept gender diversity it's more of a reflection on them (and patriarchy) than it is me. But it still cuts a little bit every time.
Does anyone else ever feel dysphoria when certain people use your specified pronouns? If so, why do you think that is?