Emotional dysregulation
My son is 7yo. He's honestly such a great kid. He's kind, respectful, helpful. But when he gets upset about something, it's a complete meltdown. It can be something as small as "it's time to brush our teeth" some days, even though other days this ask is no big deal at all.
When he gets upset, he'll scream at us, punch furniture, kick stuff, throw stuff. This happens a few times a week, not daily. And if it happens, it's usually just once in the day.
We've tried so many approaches. Staying calm and trying to help him calm down (breath work, focusing on something, etc.) We've tried timeouts. We've tried "calm down" areas with stress balls, fidgets, etc. We've tried harsher discipline (yelling unfortunately, removing video games, stand in the corner).
I do think I'm seeing some minor improvements, like the last couple days he seems to calm a little faster.
He is in therapy as well. They're working on tools to help his thought patterns because he gets stuck in "I'm horrible" or "I'm not capable" often. But when the outbursts happen, there's no chance that he will actually use these tools in the moment. If we're lucky, we can get him to use a breathing exercise.
What can we do to help? I know he's getting quickly dysregulated. I know yelling isn't making it better. I just don't know what to do.