Don’t know how to feel about this.
We (45 HLF, 45LLM) are working on rebuilding our 15yr marriage. He was always lower than me but it didn’t matter because he was very affectionate in other ways and I felt loved. But that slowly faded over the years and we’ve gone months without even touching. I finally had enough and ended things a few months ago (there were other things that pushed me to this also). I was so lonely and depressed. He asked if we could try once more. We have 3 kids under 10 so I agreed to try.
When discussing sex he has taken almost everything off the table.
He has never gone down on me, doesn’t like blowjobs, will not take me from behind, ABSOLUTELY no anal. It’s PIV missionary only and very little foreplay.
Once he cums it’s game over. He has said if I want to cum I better do it before him, but he doesn’t do much to help with that.
How have I never realised before, how selfish he is in bed! We were both inexperienced when we got together and I thought we would explore together but clearly that was naive.