u/soulvacation

I haven’t been to parkrun in 7 years, used to bring my printed barcode every week without fail back then, but I sort of assumed that it would now be fine to scan on the app on your phone nowadays (and someone I asked said phone was fine). I downloaded the app and saw it had a barcode page so thought that was that and I didn’t need to print anything, but I just checked the course page and it says “No barcode; no scan” still and now I’m worried I really do actually need a physical barcode…?! Reassurance please? I’m in the UK if that makes any difference?

I understand the health and safety aspect so I can write down my ICE on a bit of paper and put it somewhere on my person 😅 erp!

Even though I have bank automatic import turned on with Plaid (so surely it knows which accounts relate to which transactions?!) YNAB keeps assigning transactions to the wrong bank accounts. For example, even though every month my mortgage payment is the same amount, from the same account, this month it has apparently decided it’s come from a different account. I don’t understand why… surely there’s a way to fix it? My only guess is that the accounts are all under my full name which is (obviously) the same across different accounts, and it’s getting confused?
I also have various transfers set up between accounts throughout the course of the month, that are the same amounts and times every month, it still gets these wrong too often! Any way to fix this?

I don’t really know how to articulate this without just sounding useless (which is how I feel, hence why I am writing the post) but… does anyone feel like they just literally can’t keep the house tidy with their child around, meanwhile their partner (husband, in my case) seems to do it effortlessly?

My husband has been out playing golf this morning, I have been to two shops with my daughter this morning (Home Bargains and Tesco) to get a present for a birthday party later, and I agreed to buy her one Toy Story too. She was constantly asking for more toys that she saw, which is understandable in the toy aisle (“no, sorry, we just bought you a toy earlier”) then she wanted to open it in the car (“no, we can open it when we get home”). Get home, she wants different snacks quicker than I can make them and I try and shovel in lunch while she is eating. Then I tried to tidy a bit and hang laundry up while she wanted to play (“sorry, I can’t play right now, I need to tidy”). I don’t feel like I scratched the surface, it’s still a mess, and I think I’ve heard “Mummy?” 1000x today but I also feel like a bad mum and like all my daughter has heard today is “no” even though I have achieved nothing. But when my husband is with her for the day, he just tidies the house in one blitz and it’s all immaculate. I don’t understand why I can’t. I ended up getting too overstimulated and hot and snappy, took a moment, now sitting down and feeling better but feeling useless. My husband has got home and he said “wow, it’s a bombsite in here” and is now tidying and I don’t know how to articulate to him how I feel either because I’m sure from his point of view I just look lazy and messy.

Does anyone else have this feeling that they just can’t manage things as well as their partner? I’m obviously grateful that he does tidy but I don’t understand why I am useless. Help?!

Hello, I am throwing a birthday party for my daughter next week and have hired a village hall and a bouncy castle but I feel like I want to have more “activities” as I’m worried the children will be bored I guess?

Some ideas I’ve had:
- bubble tray in the garden with bubble nets (to make lots of bubbles)
- decorate your own cookie or party hat
- jenga?!
- colouring/play doh table (doubt that will get used)
- wanted a face painter but I messaged about 20 and they are all booked.

Has anyone got tips on relatively inexpensive things that they’ve added to a party that’s been good?

I’ve just found out that my very shy daughter who is naturally more drawn to girls is going to have lots of boys in her class when she starts school next year. It’s a split Year R and Year 1 class so worst case it would be 4 girls and 26 boys and best case probably something like 8 girls and 22 boys (which would be ok). I’m not sure what the exact ratio will be yet.

I’m already spiralling that we might move her to a more balanced school…. And I spent so long trying to choose the right school for her 😩 It seems like a lovely nurturing school but they can’t control gender ratios and it’s a LOT of boys. Looking for positive stories? It’s really not that I’ve got anything against boys but just that they tend to be more physical and a bit louder and she is always going on about not liking boys (though she is friends with a couple of sons of friends of mine) and only ever plays with girls at nursery. I’m already so nervous about her starting school as she is so shy (she barely talks to anyone unless she knows them and likes them) so I’m just worried this will exacerbate an already overwhelming situation for her.

On the other hand, I know it’s not a huge deal at that age, and also that boys tend to be more straightforward than girls… girls can be mean and also that not all boys will be the same and some will be quieter like her and some girls will be louder. And maybe it will be good for her!

Edit: just want to clarify I have no problem with her being friends with lots of boys, I’m just worried she won’t try and befriend them because she has this notion she “doesn’t like boys”, or that some boys won’t play with her because she is a girl, and it will lean to her feeling isolated.

On the mobile app, I can hold my finger down on a category when in my Plan and "View Activity" for that category (ie. view the transactions associated with it) which I find a useful feature that I often use, especially if I suspect something has been miscategorized or want to understand my spending better for that category for that month.

Is there an easy way on the web app to get from a category to its associated activity? Fingers crossed, thank you for enlightening me!