u/spacetimespaghetti

I want to talk about the profound alienation so many of us are feeling right now. We live in a socio-political climate where it has become morally and politically acceptable to generalize, demonize, and vent about men. If you try to express any frustration regarding this ostracization, the response is immediate ridicule: you are downvoted, labeled an incel or a misogynist, and told that misandry is just "valid punching up" or "the oppressed retaliating against oppression."

Dealing with this systemic invalidation is incredibly complex. But to make sense of why modern discourse is so profoundly broken, we have to look at a massive structural blind spot in contemporary left-wing thought.

Modern sociology is hyper-fixated on analyzing systemic oppression and the potential threat of male physical asymmetry. Yet, it completely ignores the concept of systemic safety: the invisible infrastructure of protection, labor, and prosocial behavior provided by men that keeps civilization from collapsing.

When women participate in the "Man vs. Bear" debate, or claim they have a negative view of 70%+ of men, they are engaging in a hypervigilant risk-assessment. But society fails to realize that the very luxury to contemplate these hypothetical debates exists because of a vast, invisible network of good men keeping the wolves at bay.

To understand how this infrastructure actually works, we need to look at some structural realities of power, biology, and defense:

1. External defense: If all bad actors inside a nation suddenly vanished, that peaceful society would still need to be actively defended from external threats, such as extreme, patriarchal religious regimes or hostile foreign forces. We fundamentally rely on men to defend society against the violence of other men.
2. Men are indeed dangerous: Human beings possess an immense capacity for calculated cruelty and physical force. When blinded by anger, greed, or perversion, individuals are capable of horrific things. Because of physical asymmetry, a dangerous man is a highly potent threat, which is why hypervigilance against men exists. This reality cannot be denied.
3. Power is a structural reality: The male statistical majority in violent crime exists for the exact same biological reason that virtually 100% of world physical sports records are held by men: physical strength and capacity for explosive force. This is not an inherent moral failure of masculinity. If the biological power balance of the world were reversed, women would have to defend their peaceful societies against factions of other women. Power and force are structural realities of the natural world; evil itself knows no gender.
4. Men are the prosocial infrastructure of peace: Safety is an artificial construct maintained by a vast, invisible network of compassionate, working-class men. When a woman chooses to never speak to a man again or avoid them on the street, she can only safely maintain that lifestyle because an infrastructure of men is quietly maintaining safety around her. Your mere presence as a decent man on a dark street corner or in a room acts as a deterrent to crime. Without this male-supported safety net, society would instantly collapse into historical barbarism where women would be treated as currency or property. Your existence supports the safety, peace and happiness of your community.
5. Harmlessness is a fantasy: Wishing away male power is a dangerous, utopian fantasy because raw power will always seek to dominate the weak. Modern progressive spaces have confused being harmless with being good. A truly good man is not harmless; he is someone who possesses a massive capacity for force and chaos, but makes a conscious, daily, ethical choice for order, safety, and community instead. Critics will say: "Men are needed to defend us against other men, ergo... men are the problem", but this is a fantasy, and can never be seriously addressed. We are here to stay, and bad actors are too.

We are currently living through a thankless cultural moment where our systemic contributions are erased, and our gender is treated as a monolith of pathology. But the reward for your prosociality is the internal peace of your own material integrity.

True progressivism should mean recognizing the vital, protective, and constructive role that men play in the infrastructure of civilization. Our strength is not a systemic threat, but the very gift that keeps peace alive.

When a witch presents an illusion or charmed image of her body to cast a spell on you or to otherwise control your actions into giving her your coins, your brain chemicals will automatically respond to the spell. What you must do to combat it is zoom-in directly to her face. This will show you her real self and clear the effect of the spell immediately. I may delete this. I hope it helps.

On the statistics about partner violence and its prevalence, I want to know now, has there been a study on what kind of emotional and psychological abuse, in conjunction with lack of mental health access, those men receive in that relationship up to the point where they do these acts. Has there been any study that addresses this, specifically?

I recently came across the women twice as violent as men study, and I saw a conversation on this sub about the lack of vocabulary and treatment around the intense psychological abuse that men can endure in relationships with women (things like paternal alienation, emasculation, sextortion, sadism and so on) and I was wondering what sort of resources or studies are available that address these particular factors.

Disclaimer: This is not apologism or victim blaming or however that may be called, I assume this sub is safe to express this curiosity which I find legitimate