Hi! I was very behind on my journaling and today I decided to write about my experience at the Hayley show I was at a few weeks ago since I still had so many feelings around it and felt I needed to put them on paper. It all poured out of me so I thought I'd write it on substack too and share in case others shared my experience :)
Hello! I'm traveling to Paris tomorrow and I don't have any sandals or open shoes to bring, and with the heat I don't think I'll be able to wear my sneakers, so I'm hoping to buy some there. What are some shoe shops that might have cute sandals/mesh shoes? Preferable Parisian/French brands. I'm ok with spending up to 200€ if they're good quality and comfortable. Adding some images of styles I like for reference. Thank you!
My boyfriend (34M) and I (31F) are from two different counties, and we met in a neutral country, where neither of us were native to or spoke the language fluently, so we kind of created our own little world.
After some years, especially as we were starting to consider our future, we decided to move to my country, but to a city that was new to both of us. Here is where all the problems began for me, somehow being back in my county has raised a lot of new responsibilities for me, and he still lives freely and without a care, which I think is unfair and I'm building up a lot of resentment. Since he is not native here and doesn't speak the language, I took on all the responsibility of finding our home and taking care of everything, which I understand its more practical, but its been two years and he still hasn't made any effort to learn the language, and he keeps saying things like 'WE should call an electrician', when in reality only I can do that. Additionally, he still hasn't registered as a legal citizen here, so our home contract and all the expenses are to my name, and are taken out of my bank account automatically (which he pays me back monthly, after I remind him to).
When I bring this up, he reminds me that he would have to pay a lot more taxes if he changes his legal address to here (which is true, also we are in Europe so there is no need for a visa or risk of deportation). But to me it's about commitment to a place, instead of dropping all the responsibility on me but remaining a ghost yourself. Sometimes he brings up the possibility of having children, which I'm not so keen on to begin with, but even less especially under these circumstances, where I would have to take care of absolutely everything while he just sits back and claims that there is nothing he can do (besides the occasional Duolingo lesson).
He doesn't seem to be aware of how much this is affecting the relationship for me, even if this is a topic I bring up frequently and I've been tense and withdrawing intimacy, he still seems chill and happy and living his best life.
What can I do? How to I get him to wake up and realise that he's slowly losing me? Or am I exaggerating?