u/starwillow3

I want things to be better. I'm tired of the anxiety and dread when it comes to any family settings with her involved. Tomorrow we're meeting for lunch. Do I suggest moving forward and just not bring up the laundry list of grievances I have from the last 10+ years, how do I avoid conflict or back and forth? I don't want to drag this out, I want to step forward in the right direction, if that means it's performative on her end then so be it. This is consuming me, any advice or wishes are appreciated!