Doula not believing you’re in active labor
I just had an amazing birth experience for my second baby - contractions started light around 1pm, were really picking up by 7pm, went to the hospital at 10pm and I was already 8cm upon admittance, pushed out baby at 1am unmedicated and according to my birth plan.
All that said, I hired a doula to support me and had been texting her since about 3pm. She knew it was second baby and things could move faster. But she continued to tell that things could take a long time and to try not to time contractions and get rest. At 8pm she told me to take two Tylenol PM or drink a glass of wine and try to go to sleep. I knew I wouldn’t be doing that as my body was gearing up and there was no way I’d be able to fall asleep and did not want to put anything in my body. I told her we were heading the hospital at 10pm and she said ok but if you are less than 4cm then to go back home. Of course when I got there and was 8cm 90% effaced my husband called her and she did come in while I was still laboring and did a great job getting hands on right away and supporting me through.
I guess I’m looking for validation for feeling a bit gaslit by the lack of support. She is a respected and highly reviewed doula in my area and other than those few hours (arguably some of the most important?) I did have a good experience with her. Has this kind of thing happened to anyone else?