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i’m so happy right now. i was stuck on the 3rd dilator for monthsss and i was so hard on myself for not making progress. every session i felt immense guilt and shame and i just wanted it to be over. since learning to accept my situation and give myself more grace, i’ve made it from the 3rd to the 6th size in just a couple months!! i feel so much better and it finally feels like there’s an end in sight. i’m so proud of how far i’ve come.

hi guys sorry this is nothing special i’ve just been so depressed lately. my life has been super hectic the past couple months and between traveling, unexpected health issues, and a depressive episode my progress has completely stalled. luckily, i haven’t backslid much as i’ve been able to get in at least 1 dilator session a week. i know that once i’m able to have a consistent routine again i’ll be able to make more progress but it’s so frustrating feeling stuck when there’s nothing i can do about it right now.

really i’m scared about the way this affects my boyfriend. to be clear: he has done absolutely nothing to make me feel as though he is unhappy with our current sex life. what we have right now works very well for both of us. i just worry that the quick progress i was making at the beginning of this process may have given him some false hope/expectations about me getting to a point where PIV is possible soon. it still feels so out of reach but it’s been coming up in conversation more and i’m worried that i’m letting him down by not being consistent lately. every time he talks about it i just want to cry because it feels like i’ll never get there and i’m worried he’ll leave me before i can. i’m just sad. i wish i could be normal, i want to have sex and use tampons and get the proper medical exams that i need. this whole thing is so frustrating.

i started dilator therapy in march and was able to get through the first two sizes easily, but have been struggling with the third for weeks. i was finally able to insert it without pain at the end of a long session, but i'm not confident moving on to the fourth size will go well. sometimes i see posts on here of people being able to blow through a whole 8 size set in just a few months and it makes me feel like i'm doing something wrong.

what have some of you found to be the average time it takes you to move to the next size? are there any factors that help/hinder your progress?

hi everyone, i've been lurking here for a while but this is my first time posting. i started pt about a month ago after a disastrous gyno visit. i've been using bliss dilators and am up to the third size out of eight, but my period is coming up in the next couple days and i'm terrified of taking a week off because i don't want to lose my progress.

has anyone here tried dilating on their period? if so, did you notice any extra tightness? i have really bad period pain so i'm a bit worried that might hinder my ability to relax. please let me know what has worked for you all.