Lifelong Lesbian- How to find a SAFE man to have first time sex with? Complete PIV VIrgin
I'm not a spring chicken and have identified as a lesbian for a long time. There was never any doubt in me. And that's not going to change. I don't want a serious relationship with a man, but I have been mulling over first-time sex with a safe man for a long time now. As I've heard mentioned before, I'm "a lesbian with a cock fetish."
I don't expect this to be anything like sex with a woman. In fact, that's kind of it- I want the "full experience," you know, a sensual thing gentle or rough. Though I don't think I could ever kiss him or just adore his body or anything. That's why I kind of need SAFE... someone who will let us kind of grow into that sensuality without a relationship, because I don't find men attractive on the surface. Besides the cock, of course... ::laughing so I don't cry ::
There is no threesome potential here. Actually, I've never had PIV sex even with a woman. So I'm really scared that I'm going to get taken advantage of, and scared of pain and such in general... some 10 second sex and a paranoia that he would want more or to do something stupid like stalk me. So it needs to be understanding, safe, and in a neutral location.
Where the hell do I find this setup without hitting a bar or club? I'm introverted and it isn't my scene.
ETA: I'm in my 30s so this isn't some whim or some easy find.