Did I make the right choice to end it with someone who makes me feel so safe?
I'm seeking some perspective as a girl in her mid 20s but l met a guy that makes me feel so safe, like incredibly safe.
My body can just rest with him, and trust me when I say I'm not one to relax ever ever. I'm a very independent person too and I've been alone in managing my adult life quite well, but it's almost like I am allowed to be weak and not on top of things in his arms.
I know the connection is special and my body doesn't feel so safe to that extent even with my closest friends that l've known for years. It happened right away when I met him so much so that it baffles me. I keep hearing people saying that usually they know that’s their ‘the one’ by the safety thing, so that’s interesting.
When I used to describe meeting someone of great potential to my friends before, I always said the feelings were so jumpy. Ups and downs at the extremity. I feel quite in the neutral range with him, in a calm way, and it's never happened to me before.
I won't bore you too much with the logistical details, but I saw that our connection wouldn't be able to work so I cut it short before both of us get too hurt later. I hope that someone might see themselves in me, because I can't help but thinking that maybe I'm still young and haven't met enough people in this world that I still feel so intrigued by what we had. Or actually, maybe I really let go of something people spend their lives searching for? How do you really know?