Trying my luck, can you tell what my type is?
I asked my pal GPT what topics i should consider while writing this post so here what it gave me:
- How you deal with wants, needs and boundaries?
Ok so basically I am not doing very well at this area. Whenever I want something it's hard for me to say it unless I trust the person 100% or unless it is very inportant. My self confident isn't really high as well. Boundaries are a strange word for me because I am a very open minded person and most of the time I don't mind going with the flow, but whenever someone crosses the boundaries I do have my reaction would depend on who that person is. For example my boss once used a word to describe a person I work with and I didn't like the word. It was a nasty way to describe someone's needs not being met. I did not argue with her though because it was pointless and this is who she is. But if my husband would use such word I'd tell him it's wrong and argue with him over it gladly because who he is matters to me more than who my boss is. If my boss will ever say that again I am likely to say something but not as assertively as I'd say it to my husband or a close friend.
- Conflict style:
Ok so what does that even mean? Lol. I do not have a specific style it can go from like emotional bursts to extremely cold and logical arguement. Depends on the subject and well, the day ig. If someone comes at me with a nasty attittude i can get really pissed and become more cinical and have that "are u stupid" approach. If someone pisses me off because i feel like they're not being fair to me I can go passive agrressive seceretly expecting them to realize and if it doesn't work I'll just open it later with them (especially if we are close). Overall I'm a forgiving person and I don't actively look for arguements and I dislike conflict in general.
- Emotional expression:
I do not show emotions easily. I am talking about my deeper, true emotions. I do show happiness, excitement or sympathy very openly. But if I am offended, sad or disapointed I will try to hide it. I'd rather feel these types of feelings by myself and usually deal with them via writing, music, singing my heart out or crying when I'm alone (not something I do often tho). I won't cry in front of others unless someone really close hurt me, I actually did open it and they still won't listen - that's the only time where I can cry in front of someone. When I feel deeply misunderstood by someone after putting lots of efforts to explain myself. Which I only do if the person truly natters something.
- Relationships and morality:
I am a very loyal person. I try my best to be good and to do what's right especially with those I care about. When someone does not do the same it hurts deeply. I value my relationships, friendships and loved ones more than anything in this world. I also try to be good to everyone else, but I won't claim to be perfect cause I could convince someone to do or think something that I don't truly believe in, if I am honest. I care a lot about having strong values and it guides me a lot in life. I feel like I always develop in that area. If I feel in a relationship like I'm not being treated as am equal, I get hurt deeply. I am very flexible and can sometimes let someone feel like I'd do anything forthem therefore I was taken advantage a lot during my relationships in life. I am always aware when that happens even if I don't show it. I am constantly analyzing my relationships under the radar. Takes me a long time to decide I cut someone off but when I do, I disconnect emotionally from them. I could smile to them and talk to them, but I just would'nt really care about them and they will have no impact on me whatoever.
- Thinking style:
I think in a chaotic way. My thoughts jump from one to the other, I can start with reality and end up in fantasy and vice versa. My brain process information best when I can talk out my thoughts. I don't like to just "sit there and think" i need to actively do something to focus on my thoughts. So that could be talking, writing or listening to a song/a person that inspires me. Chat here says to talk about definitions and logical consistency, I think I'm quite logical I care a lot about facts but wouldn't argue with someone over their opinion unless I have a strong proof that they're wrong. It's much easier for me to do when it comes to morality topics rather than logical ones, but I do have common sense and that's a trait I am very proud of. I am very proud of myself for having the ability to disconnect from my subjective views and evaluate things for what they are. It's very triggering for me when someone says something as if it was a fact but has nothing to back up their opinion. Like with my mom we argue a lot over medical topics. I do my research when it comes to this topic, and like I said if I argue it's cause I have proof. So she is trying to tell me I am wrong but never says why. Turns out everytime she just repeats what she hears from doctors and their usual protocols but never actually educated herself to actually know how it works. I did. Yet still she'd rather listen to them with zero explainations on their behalf rather than listening to me and my reasonings. That's upsetting not cause I need to be right but because I care about my mom and I want to help her make the right decisions which you can only do if you have the correct information.
- Practical life and productivity:
I am lazy. I say it loud and not so proud, but I am. If I was rich I'd probably have someone for every little thing I need to so I can actually do the stuff I want and like. I'd rather have that than a fancy car or a huge house. But I guess that's also a productive way to use money, isn't it? I am good at giving practical advice. I know exactly what I should do. But I'd much rather spend my time doing the things I find productive like gain knowladge, or having interesting convos or building connections. When i need to do something that's productive on paper but is boring and makes no sense to me, like at work, part of my job is that I need to write a report every single day on everything I did that day with the people I work with. I see no point in doing this because 1. No one actually cares what I did they just wanna see I did something, and 2. It's really boring and pointless. I'd be happier if someone actually came to see me doing my job, it's stupid to rely on something I report on myself like how do they know I'm not lying? Pointless. So instead of doing it everyday I delay it as much as I can and end up doing it under pressure all together once in two weeks or so.
- Body, comfort, routine, sensory needs:
Ok so I am not good at dealing with the unpleasent stuff like being cold or in pain. These are the two things I cannot deal with. I can tell when I'm hungry usually but I get hungry when I see someone eating or on social media when I see something yummy. I love comfort I still remember till this day sleeping at my cousin's house and it was so cold so she brought two blankets and covered me and made sure every part of my body was covered and it felt so amazing that today I am doing this for my kids just because I remember how safe it felt when she did that for me. When someone takes care of me physically I get emotionally very attached to them I feel safe and seen, it's not that I am spoiled, I can do well by myself but it doesn't feel the same. I am an only child and my parents are amazing, I am 28 yet till this day I get excited when my mom makes my coffee for me or when she helps me cleaning my house. I would want to have a better routine but I'm not so invested in it. I was never good with schedules and doing something concistently. I could make an awesome schedule for others though, it would be very practical, but to actually do it for myself is a different story.
- Time, possibilities and future:
I remember my dad once told me "do you even have a plan for the future"? And I was like "no, I have many plans. I'm just taking my time to see which one I wanna follow". That sums it up ig. I don't really like sitting and thinking about what will happen and plan my sh*t, and even when I do I never actually follow my own plan. I find life to be too dynamic to be fixed on one way things should happen. I can have a very negative point of view on the future. But I don't like it so I choose optimism and going with the flow and see what happens and deal with it when it happens. I don't have a sense of urgency whatsover when it comes to the future, most of the time. I can talk about it freely and be very analytical and curious about it but it's not like "we must do this to prevent this" type of thought and more like "ok this could happen, we'll have to wait and see and deal with it if it does. And if it doesn't - great!"
- What criticism hurt most?
All of it when it's not true. None of it if it is true. Being misunderstood and judged hurts. Being seen and exposed yet still accepted is amazing. I don't really care what people think of me. People have called me stupid, naive, fake, manipulative, show off, freak, weird. That doesn't mean anything if the person doesn't mean anything. But when someone I love calls me manipulative, cold or fake? That breaks me. When somwone I loves says I talk too much or I need to be more calmed in certain situations? I feel like they're trying to help me so I respect that. When someone says or hints that I am a pushover? That motivates me. When someone says I'm wrong about something? Ok, we'll see. Or - where's your proof?
- What you admire but struggle to be:
That type of woman who just knows what she wants and is a go getter. The type of person who can think of it and instantly do it. The type of person who cares less about how others feel and more about the actual result and can make things happen. Like my daf he is a very decisive person. Something is broken? He fixes it. There's an issue? He figures out a plan and just follow it. There's chaoes? He's calm, and he will fix it. I love my dad :3
- Here chat says "real scenarios" but i gave plenty lol.
Ok can't wait to hear ur thoughts, byeeee :P