u/sunmoon610

I don’t even know why I’m so upset.

About a month ago, my mom requested to cancel a therapy appointment on short notice and her therapist told her she would need to charge her a late cancellation fee. My mom immediately turned against her. She had her session to avoid paying the fee but I don’t think she ever went back.

Her therapist allegedly told her she does not have BPD so I figured she is a bad therapist and/or my mom fooled her as she can be very charismatic. Either way I had lost hope. But this feels like betrayal, and she told me about it only after I asked and in such a nonchalant way.

I just said, ok but I have been upset ever since. I have been thinking about all her episodes in which she became verbally and physically abusive towards me, when she would physically restrain me or block doorways so I couldn’t leave my room. She knows how important her going to therapy is for me, and for her to be so casual about telling me she stopped going to therapy felt like a slap in the face.

I let her come to my house to do her laundry and she is supposed to come in tomorrow but I don’t want to see her.

My pwBPD has always hated most of my friends. When I had plans to hang out with them she would say she hoped they would cancel on me or tell me they were going to stand me up. She had no basis for any of this.

She would also tell me that I will one day realize that they are awful people and that day I will remember her words.

Anyone else experience this? How did you deal with it?

TW: general BPD cruelty/abuse.

Anyone dealt with false imprisonment by a BPD parent? I’m talking about blocking driveways, doors, physically restraining your movements, etc.? I am constantly triggered by these memories..