Has anyone gone on a date with someone who was visibly high ?
Hello. I wanted to share this experience because I found it very odd and quite uncomfortable. I met someone off hinge for a first date this week. We had been chatting for two weeks. Nothing seemed out of the ordinary in these chats.
However, when I met him in person, his hair was all white instead of red, and he was visibly very anxious. During the date, he kept moving around, with flailing gestures such as pointing his finger at me, waving his arms, and he kept making contorted faces, such as raising his brows very high. He kept kicking out his legs as well.
The conversation went poorly. I tried to ask him questions such as what was his favourite movie or band and he was unable to answer those questions. He was very defensive and said that he must not be impressing me. I asked him if he liked to exercise and his rebuttal was that he must be too skinny.
This may have been out of line, but since he brought it up in the chat on hinge, I asked him if it’s hard getting back on the dating scene after so many years. I tried to empathize with him by telling him that I’ve been out of the game for ten years and am rusty myself. He then asked for feedback.
I then tried to help him and said maybe if you didn’t mumble your answers to my questions that would be better. He was defensive about this and said that I mumble too and the music was too loud. I also asked him to relax since he seemed so strung out.
Then because he was so visibly high, I said that I’m actually a drug addict myself (not true obviously). He was so relieved when I said this and kept talking about speed but didn’t admit to having done this prior to the date. I pressed a bit more and he said he had taken VyVance before the date. This could be true but reading up on it, I’m not sure if it would cause such erratic behavior.
As the date was going very poorly and I was feeling quite uncomfortable with his poor communication and unpredictable movements I got up to go to the bathroom and got a shot of vodka at the bar. When I returned he ordered himself another beer and I let the bartender know that I was finished with my drink.
He then got very upset, saying I must hate him, and that this must be the worst date that I’d ever been on. He made his hand into a fist and then was pumping it in the air. His eyes became completely dilated and he stared at me with them, all black, with no blinking. This went on for minutes. I was frightened and said I would pay for the bill and got up to go to the bar. While I was paying he yelled out curses and the bartender walked me out for my safety.
Has something similar happened to anyone else ?
I blocked him thereafter and reported him to Hinge for being unhinged. I would like to unpack this to understand how this could happen.