What’s daily life actually like with an addict partner?
What’s daily life actually like with an addict partner? We never talk about something long and he doesn't talk much. When I call him he is always frustrated and wants to hang up quickly.
I dated him for over a year. He never told me he was an addict at the beginning. This was my first time being with someone who has an addiction, and he’s not from the same country as me.
We broke up month ago and this is already multiple times. I couldn’t hold back again and called him again. Even after a month he answered coldly and clearly wanted to hang up as soon as possible. That made something click for me — he was like that the entire year we were together.
In the last few months especially, we barely did anything. No going out to nice places, no dinners, nothing. I used to think maybe it was a language/cultural barrier because I’m a foreigner here. But every other boyfriend I had before always did things with me, traveled, and could keep interesting conversations going.
I can’t talk to my family about this, and I don’t really have friends I can open up to. I only talk to my doctor once a month. Reading posts here has actually been helpful.
Is this kind of emotional distance, short phone calls, and general avoidance just… normal when your partner is an addict?