uBPD mom is holding onto her role as a mother
Posted before, adding a cat pic anyway.
I'm not sure if other bpd mothers are like this, but my mom is really hell-bent on her role as an on paper mom still. I'm 28, and my brother is 32 (he had to move back home for a while). And my mom complains about having to do the groceries, cook, clean- when no one really asked her to. My father works and comes home really late, my brother works odd hours, and it's just me and her at home. And she's always up my ass about losing weight- so I insist on cooking my own food that I weight out.
But my mom makes it such a big deal that we don't eat what she cooks and we HAVE to eat what she cooks because she's the mom and she knows what we need to eat because if it weren't for her, we would be eating junk food all day- which could not be further from the truth.
But it's not just about food. She complains that we don't know how to do anything but also has to accompany us whenever we do the laundry because we "won't do it right". She's constantly on us about doing things but she seems to neglect other chores? Like cleaning the sink, cleaning the bathtub, cleaning the fridge out etc. But it's these other things that she feels the need to do because we once depended on her for it. And she just wants to hold onto that power that we need her for survival. But we're past that. And she doesn't like it. And she rages and calls us ungrateful, fat, stupid, for pushing her away.
