From the beginning....40F, just had first visit at 12w3d
Hubby (38M) and I (40F) got married in 2023 and had been NTNP since then. Then, late 2024 and several months into 2025 we were actively trying. The furious tracking of cycles, LH testing, the timed sex, the whole thing. Honestly it wasn't much fun for me. Too much pressure, too much overthinking. I turned 40 in October 2025 and at that point I was just kind of over it in general. Back to NTNP. Started becoming "meh" on having kids and started thinking about early retirement, lots more pets, travel, the adult good life childfree.
By mid February I pretty much told my husband I didn't even have a desire to have kids anymore and was really childfree-minded. Pretty sure the next time he came in me (spontaneous sex, wasn't tracking ovulation at all) is when I got knocked up. Go figure!!
Fast forward to last week and I get a positive pregnancy test. Whoa. Total surprise! I hadn't notated all of our sex in my app but the timing just did not add up! My "irregular April period" was 100% not a period. My PMS symptoms were pregnancy symptoms. I had NO nausea, morning sickness, or fatigue! I was living normal life. Then something just seemed off so I tested. That thing turned dark pink before I could even set the timer.
Went in today and turns out I'm 12 weeks already! When the ultrasound began and we saw a whole-ass baby up on the screen, I couldn't help but burst out laughing! My husband was in shock, expecting to see a blob. But instead it was a baby with arms, legs, and lots of gymnastic skills. We are basically like, holy shit!!
I kept telling the PA how stupid I felt for not knowing! Everyone's consensus is that this is best case scenario, I didn't have to worry early on waiting for the first appointment when you don't really see anything anyway, I didn't have first tri sickness, and now my chance of miscarriage is basically down to 5%. (Ladies who had a trying first tri, don't hate me. I still am kind of bummed to have found out this "late.")
I was able to get all the genetic testing done today too, so we are praying that all comes back normal. We should know in about a week. Everything with my vitals was good and everything measurable on baby looked good. Doc said to keep myself healthy, that it's totally possible to go full term and have a vaginal birth. Which is my goal.
We are still dumbfounded, but excited! Trying to figure out when/how to tell people! I definitely want to wait until after the genetic testing and then decide from there on when to tell our families. We are not about the big show/recording reactions or social media announcements, so wanting to be low key about it but cute!
Possibly the funniest part of the appt: My husband said to the doc, "Okay, so we didn't know. Baby has been to brunch a few times....should we worry?" The PA laughed and said no worries about that, if anything consumed/ingested early on caused issues then nature would have taken its course already. Little did she know that in addition to a few brunches, baby went to Mexico for a week last month and had QUITE the fiesta.
Cheers to the ladies out there trying, please remain hopeful! Cheers to the ladies who found out and were totally surprised, we got this! Cheers to us all! Please feel free to share your stories or ask any questions you have.
Edit to add: I am a FTM, but I was pregnant once before ~15 years ago which I voluntarily did not carry forward.