r/PregnantOver40

Hello! I’m looking to hear some reassuring stories of other women in a similar situation to mine.
I’m 40 years old, AMH 1.26, FSH 12. I’m completely new to this, I did the tests just because and I was not expecting these results. Worth mentioning that I have 2 kids, last one at 37.
Like I said I’m new at this and I see that most of you seem very knowledgeable. Are my numbers terrible? My husband is set on not having IVF and I don’t know how likely I am to get pregnant naturally. I fear we have waited too long and now this might never happen.

Thank you all in advance and good luck with your journey 🩷

First trimester here! My nausea is SO bad. How are you ladies coping?

UPDATE: Baby still alive with heart rate but low at 85 (last week was 101)

Baby had grown since last week but is further behind in size.

Dr said come back in a week and c when in pushed for a blunt prognosis,he said it’s likely I miscarry but to keep positive and not stress since preserving my mental health was the most important. I hear him. Trying to keep living positive during this wait. —— I’m at the hospital waiting to do a second viability scan after I had low hcg on weeks 5 and 6.

Had a viability scan last week where we saw the heartbeat but the rate wasn’t ideal nor was the baby’s size.

This is my follow up and I’m scared.

I got pregnant spontaneously after failed ivf cycles and several losses from spontaneous conceptions.

Am I delulu to think that if this fails, I could get pregnant again spontaneously?

I don’t have known issues other than age and thin lining (no scarring) following my last loss a year ago.

Thank you for the support.

For those who already had a baby (but specifically asking about your FIRST):

• How far along were you?
• Were you induced?
• Vaginal or C section?
• Any details you’d like to add!

I am 31 weeks now and anticipating an early birth due to my high risk factors, would like to know how it resulted for other moms over 40.

I wonder if intercourse positioning has any influence on the outcome. So far we can only try one position as my spouse is much heavier than me and he cannot be on top of me so i have to always be on top of him and as soon as it happens, i would shift over and lie on my back. I know this is not ideal but thats the only way we can do it now and im wondering if others do the same with still successful outcomes.

I have been on birth control pills for the past 6 years. Typically if I accidentally miss a pill I will immediately get break through bleeding. I actually had to up the estrogen level because I was bleeding all the time on low estrogen pills.

I went off the pill 3 weeks ago and haven’t gotten any bleeding yet. Is this normal? I took a wondfo pregnancy test and it was negative so I don’t think I am pregnant. I just want to get my first period so I know when to track ovulation.

Any ovulation testing tips? Also, did your ovulation day occur around the expected mid point in your cycle ?

I’ve tried conceiving for a full year now, I just did larascopic surgery were they cleaned my fallopian tubes. Do you have any tips on anything that will help I’ve been taken prenatal every morning

I had my son at 40. Before that at age 39, I had a MMC at 10 weeks . My friend who is my age recently had a MMC at 11 weeks after 4 excellent ultrasounds with strong heartbeats at 6,7,8,9 weeks.

I am 42.5 years old and 7 weeks pregnant. I will deliver this baby just after I turn 43. I have had two ultrasounds so far at 6w4d and 7 weeks. First ultrasound baby measured exactly as they should with a heartbeat of 124. And then at 7 weeks, heartbeat of 132, also measuring exactly as they should.

I tracked my HCG levels every 48 hours from 12dpo to 28dpo and they initially tripled and then once they got over 11,000 they slowed to 50 and then 91 hours for doubling time. Which apparently is normal. My last one was 31,000. Everything seems to be progressing perfectly.

I am already having extreme fatigue, thirst, nausea, and occasional vomiting. Since four weeks. But the “funny” thing is with my pregnancy with my son, I had zero symptoms until 10 weeks. And with my MMC I was super symptomatic from 3w2d onward. So symptoms don’t even reassure me.

But I am terrified that the NIPT is going to reveal bad news. Because everything I read says that excellent early HCG rises and excellent early ultrasounds do lower the overall miscarriage risk but they do not rule out chromosome issues obviously. So babies with certain trisomies can progress normally until, let’s say, 11 weeks, and then issues are revealed or heartbeats stop.

I am grateful to live in Canada and to have a wonderful, supportive family doctor and OB who are following this pregnancy closely. I am healthy with no medical issues.
But I just wish I felt more confident. I understand where my worries come from. I’ve lived it. My best friend, like I mentioned, recently lived it too.

I was so excited when I got my positive test after only trying for four months . But then I started reading Reddit and going online (which, I know, big mistake), and it seems my baby is destined to have a chromosome abnormality or medical issues simply because of my age.

Thank you for allowing me to vent. I will be getting more ultrasounds at 8 weeks, 9 weeks, 10 weeks and 12 weeks, and the NIPT done after 9 weeks, but I guess I’m just looking for positive stories because right now I just feel overwhelmed and scared. And many posts I see on here saying I’m 42/43 and pregnant! Ended in late first trimester or early second trimester losses. Maybe the successful ones aren’t posting updates? I don’t know. Anyway, thanks for listening.

I’m 41, and my latest AMH (anti-Müllerian hormone) level was 0.06. My FSH is also high.

I’m currently tracking ovulation with ultrasound. In my previous cycle, I did ovulate, but unfortunately, I didn’t get pregnant. I was really devastated.

I’d really appreciate hearing from women who had very low AMH and went on to have a 👶 baby. Has anyone here had a positive outcome with AMH as low as mine? And if so, did you conceive naturally or through IVF?

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. ❤️

Hi, for those who became pregnant during perimenopause. Did your perimenopause symptoms stay the same or change during pregnancy. I’m currently 43 TTC. I just want to hear stories of how you found out, how things went for you, and were the symptoms similar in both for youto… Thanks

My name is Anderson, I'm 33, and I wanted to come here and share my wife's high-risk pregnancy story and how it's been going so far.

My wife's name is Vanessa. She's 36 and she's 33 weeks pregnant. She's being induced on September 15th, one week before she turns 37. Our son's name is Lucas.

We've been together for 6 years and married for 3. This is her second pregnancy. The first one was 2 years ago and she ended up having a miscarriage at 6 or 7 weeks. It hit both of us hard, but it was way worse for her, since she was the one carrying him.

We both started therapy so we could pick ourselves back up and try again. In October 2025 she started getting ready. She started seeing her gynecologist regularly, started taking supplements, got back into exercising and fixed her diet. All her bloodwork improved and her OB gave us the green light. We tried for 2 months and nothing happened. We were already starting to think it just wasn't going to happen for us, and then her period was late. That's how we found out, at 4 weeks.

We were so happy. We started the whole routine of bloodwork, ultrasounds and OB appointments. But at the end of the first trimester we got hit with gestational diabetes. The fear came right back, along with that awful question of whether it was all going to happen again.

From there the appointments got more frequent and the ultrasounds went to every 2 weeks. She started insulin, checking her blood sugar 6 times a day, taking her blood pressure every day, tracking her weight, drinking 2.5 liters of water a day, plus a bunch of new meds like low dose aspirin, calcium and iron.

With all that going on it's really easy to lose track. Everything had to be written down and the whole history had to go to the OB. Paper wasn't realistic, so we tried a bunch of apps, and none of them covered everything. For a high risk pregnancy she would have needed 3 different apps, and she'd still be writing her blood pressure and blood sugar on a piece of paper to bring to the appointment.

That's when I decided to build an app just for her, with everything she needed to manage the gestational diabetes and the pregnancy as a whole. I go with her to every appointment and every scan, and I'm the one who remembers her meds, so I knew exactly what she was dealing with and what she actually needed. I kept adjusting it around her real routine.

The first version took me 2 weeks. Full of bugs, obviously, but she loved it right away. Everything was in one place, it was private, and no more carrying paper around. And it actually worked. Her OB could see the full history, figured out where the blood sugar control was going wrong, adjusted her insulin doses, and since week 16 everything has been under control.

I've kept improving it since then. It was her idea that other women going through this should have it too. I named it after her, Vanessa. It started as something just for her and now there are other people using it, which honestly still feels strange to me.

On Tuesday the 18th she hits 34 weeks. 4 weeks to go and soon Lucas will be here with us.

I hope our story helps or comforts someone going through something similar. It does work out in the end, even when it's really hard in the middle of it.

Send us good vibes for a smooth delivery and a healthy baby boy.

For the women in their 40s who are trying to conceive… how do you keep doing this month after month without feeling completely defeated?
Every month starts with hope. You track everything, time everything, analyse every little symptom and tell yourself maybe this is our month. Then you wait. You try not to get too excited, but of course you do. And when that negative test comes or your period arrives, it feels like all that hope disappears in an instant.
Then somehow you’re expected to pick yourself up, start a new cycle and find that hope all over again.
I know getting pregnant in your 40s can be harder and the statistics aren’t always kind, but knowing that doesn’t make wanting a baby any less. It doesn’t make the disappointment hurt any less either.
So for the women who have been doing this for months or even years — how do you stay positive?

For those who opted for the NIPT, how long to get your results? Especially curious if you’re in the US and have Kaiser. Getting my blood drawn now lol.

I am 43 now and just started taking supplements seriously for about 3 months, i take folic acid, coq10 and omega 3 in the morning and magnesium at night. I have also been taking progreteron pill from around cycle day 17 until my period starts to regulate the cycle. I am currently on 2nd day of period and i would like to try again this month. I have the ovulation test kit and basal thermometer. I am just wondering from which day onwards should we try to have intercourse as sometimes i feel like i am always missing the peak window. Any tips and advice is most welcome also for diet and supplements. Thank you.

Hi everyone, I’d love to hear some encouraging stories from women over 40 who got pregnant naturally and went on to deliver healthy babies. I had a TFMR and then a chemical pregnancy, so I’m wondering if there is still hope. I’m 40 years and 7 months old. ❤️ I would appreciate it if you could mention your AMH or AFC when you got pregnant, if you know them. I have an AMH of 1 and an AFC of 10-11.

Hello, I’m currently 15 weeks pregnant and 48 years old. We had our NIPT test (Panorama/LifeLabs) done about a week ago and received the results today, which was a bit of a surprise since we were told to expect a two-week wait (but I’m not complaining).

We found out that we’re having a girl, which makes us very happy, since we already have three daughters together (my poor, dear, outnumbered partner), and I know they’ll be thrilled to have another sister; after all, they’d just been discussing how they could abandon a little brother in the woods and/or trade him for a sister if we were to have a boy. :)

We’ve also learned that our little girl has an increased risk of Down syndrome. We’ll be meeting with a genetic counselor to discuss the next steps (i.e., to find out if further testing is necessary). Either way, we love our new family member and are incredibly excited to meet her, and between her parents and her three very excited sisters, she certainly won’t lack for love—whether she has Down syndrome or not. :)

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Its been a rough week. I just need to talk to someone. Im 40, and about 7 weeks pregnant. No one except my husband knows I'm pregnant, and now my supervisor at work due to necessity.

I've just had a sense of doom this whole pregnancy due to my age. Then, four days ago, I had some spotting. About the size of a quarter in my underwear, and brownish/pinkish when I wiped. I freaked out, of course. Tried to calm myself down by reading about how this can be normal and not necessarily cause for alarm. By the next morning, the spotting had stopped. Tried to go to work the next day and just wait and see. But I couldn't focus, and ended up leaving early so I could call the doctor.

I can't call my Dr's office directly, the phone tree routes me to an advice nurse probably working out of a call center in another state. The person on the phone was awful. She was clearly following a prompt script.

Q: why are you calling?

A: I am pregnant, but I don't have my first scan until next week and I started seeing brownish pink spotting last night around 9pm.

Q: ok, and what color was it?

A: .... brownish pink

Q: and what time was this at?

A: ........... 9pm

Q: and have you had a scan yet for this pregnancy?

A: .............ma'am....

And on like that. I started crying on the phone and the person snapped at me to repeat myself and kept impatiently asking if I was still there when I was sobbing too hard for words. She did not once ask me if I was alright or suggest a phone number for mental health services or anything. It would have been just as easy to ask chatgpt. But eventually she gave me an appointment for the following afternoon. Apparently the call center advice nurse is the gatekeeper for appointments if I need to see my doctor for any reason between routine appointments. I hate Kaiser.

I took the rest of the day off, the advice nurse upset me so much. I tried to go to work again the following day before my afternoon appointment, but about 30 min after I got in I started spotting again, this time darker and thicker. I freaked out again, and went home to wait until my appointment.

I was 100% ready for bad news at the appointment. I was starting to prepare myself and mentally get ready. I was mentally making plans for work and childcare for my living child, so i could take the rest of the week off for a miscarriage. But, the scan was fine. The dr saw cardiac activity and fetal pole measuring appropriately. She shrugged off the spotting and said to just keep waiting until my next scan.

I went home with tentative hope.

Then, today, about 48 hrs after the last spotting, I saw spotting again. I can't handle this. Every time I use the bathroom I am terrified to look. Every time I see color on the toilet paper I spiral and mentally start preparing for how to get myself to the ER and how to tell my work and how to organize childcare. I can't focus at work. I feel like I'm just waiting to start gushing blood at any moment. Im bouncing between tentative hope when its been 12-24 hrs without spotting, to plunging back to doom and grief.

I finished out my work day this time, still minor spotting throughout the day. But I don't see the point of calling the advice nurse again. I wish I could talk to my doctor. I guess I just have to wait until I start bleeding more. I don't know how to function like this. How do I just go about my day and go to work and take care of my living child? Honestly I wish my body would just get it over with. If I am going to experience loss, I want it to just happen all at once so I can heal and process grief. This drawn out business isn't fair. How long is my body going to keep me in suspense?

I don't even really have anyone to talk to. My husband is going through his own emotional struggle, and no one else knows, not even our teenage daughter. Thats the worst, because I have to keep my emotions together even at home so my daughter isn't freaked out. This sucks.

I’ll be asking my OB more about this as we progress, but my OB mentioned that I would likely be induced early since I’m 40 (she said it was simply because I’m over 35). I’m due 12/30.

It would be SO much better financially for us if I could just go to 1/1 or 1/2 with our deductible/OOP max. Plus I feel bad for the kid’s bday being so close to Christmas.

Obviously I am not willing to put myself or the baby in any danger, and will absolutely be induced early if called for, but I wondered if any other 40ish moms made it to or just slightly beyond their due date?