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Not me, but my close friend F20 is currently dating a man M40. When I first heard of this I was petrified. I was a very sheltered kid so things like these were not normal to me, of course, I didn't judged her and was happy for her, even though I was very worried. Recently, I had the pleasure of meeting him and, honestly? He was pretty respectful and fun, didn't feel like he was twice our age, but I still kept my distance just to be safe.

How much of an age gap IS normal? I personally wouldn't be with a man twice my age but I understand people who are and who find older man attractive (I myself find some older celebrities attractive).

Self explanitory title.

For me, it was my dad who introduced me to FnM. He listened to them in the 90's (Have to ask him about his introduction, but everyone was listening to them at the time) and ever since I was a little kid he'd play them occasionally, then my older brother would blast them in the car, and now I do. It wasn't until recently, around a month ago, that I really got into them, with my dad showing me a live performance of the song "Malpratice" which I was blown away by.

So, how did you get introduced to FnM? New fans and old fans. I am interested in hearing your stories!

Idk if mods are still active on this subreddit but, please, can we get a new headline? I think it's PRETTY BIG NEWS that FnM are going on tour again?

So, I got a recommended post of the infamous story of Mike pissing on the security guards at the Astoria Club gig in 2001 (if I'm not mistaken). I read he was very agitated during the show and, we know what happened afterwards.

While searching on youtube I could only find "audio only" versions, for obvious reasons I imagine. Does a live recording of this show even exist? At least a censored version, ion need to see all the details.

I was researching this topic and landed on a "rant/vent" post from 2 years ago where a similar thing was being discussed. (failure as a musician). I am new to music. I never tried to create a song, I take opera singing lessons, and I enjoy them. I dream of singing in opera, but I know my heart lies somewhere else... (alt, metal, rock scene)

(The following segments are copied from a "diary/memoir" entry I wrote for my own mental wellbeing. They are a day old as of writing this)

"People have become more selfish than ever. We have everything we could ever want, yet, everyone is still unhappy. My heart breaks for the simpler times of just doing one thing you love. I truly believe I was born in the wrong body, at the wrong time. I don’t feel satisfied. I am grateful for everything I have, however, I feel like, if I were given a chance, in some different time, in a different body, I would do more than I am capable of doing now. I feel incomplete. Like, I can't give all I want and can. Something is stopping me."

"...It’s as if I finally see what I can be capable of, what I really want in life. I’m so close to finally getting started on it and I fail to get anything done. I am convinced I can’t write, produce, sing…."

"...I am alone in this. I don’t trust anyone, I don’t trust myself. How can I start a band if I am too scared to open up and say exactly what I want? I don't think I am not as talented as I want to be. I should just stick to opera, or pop, or just quit music forever and focus on my degree, work behind the scenes, never get anything I desire done."

My heartbreak mainly stems from how simpler it was back in the 80s and 90s to get recognized as a band, musician, how for some it was easier than for others. I love metal and rock music, I have always dreamed about being a performer, acting crazy on stage, I don't think I'll ever get the chance. New bands pop up all the time, no one even glances or gives them a listen, and I am guilty of this myself. I just stick with the things I already know which I think majority of the people in the world do. Stick with what they know.

I don't know how to end this.. I feel an overwhelming pain in my heart and soul for the time and music scene we're currently going through. It has affected me mentally, the overgrowing fear of time slipping away, and my "youth fading". Wasting my best years not getting anything done. (It's going to be funny to some, but I am 20 years old).

And I don't know if anyone feels like this. That they're not doing as much as they should, comparing themselves to other musicians that we aren't even on the same level with... It's defeating...