My(M35) boyfriend(M32) of almost 2 years has stated he wants to take a break. Need advice
Me and my bf of almost two years has had our first major hurdle in our relationship. We live about an hour apart. Work M-F jobs and I have to work one Saturday a month. We are limited to spending time with each other to weekends mostly. We have did dinner after work through the week sometimes in the past, but over the past several months that hasn’t happened. We have been on vacation once and we’re planning another one next month. We are both introverts and we can be overstimulated after work and need some space to ourselves. We don’t want to overwhelm each other with plans. Basically, we have both been waiting on the other person to initiate plans for the past several months. Unfortunately, this has caused him to feel undesirable and like I did not care for him. He says him always initiating the plans has made him feel that he may be a burden to me. This is a misunderstanding, and has made it apparent to me that we have both shied away from giving our expectations in this relationship. I have apologized and told him the things I would do now that I am aware of this. I will make plans, initiate dinner, and make sure he knows how much I love him. After almost two years, this is our first big issue so I want to talk and work through this. He has instead, told me he needs space because he is emotionally overwhelmed and his mental state is not good. He has an appointment with his therapist next week. He wants to take a break right now and hit pause on our relationship. Any advice on how I navigate this?