My Wife (36F) slapped me (36M) with her slippers during argument and haven't apologized since. I'm unsure whether to continue my marriage or not.
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Context:
\\- Both of us are 36 this, been married for almos 4th yout 12 years
\\- Have 2 kids - 10Y & 4Y
\\- We knew each other for 14 years
\\- Marriage troubles for past 3 years++ (already did counselling, spoke to parents, seek guidance etc.)
We had an argument 2 months ago which started small as usual (something about whether to continue my daughter's religious class next year or cancel it) and during argument, she started abusing my father and call him in bad words (she already verbally abused my mom in another argument 2 years ago and I warned her to never bring in my parents into our arguments).
Despite my previous warning, she abused my dad verbally this time and I lost it. I got up from my sofa and slapped her, telling her she can scold me whatever she wants but my parents are off limits! Immediately after that, she took out her slippers and slapped me back! The WORST part - she said what she did was RIGHT!
Now granted, me slapping her was wrong but I didn't know how else to stop her screaming from her lungs and abusing me & my family continuously! She has bad temper and even her own family members already told her to lower her voice and control her anger but she never listens (her own brother is not on speaking terms with her due to a small argument and my wife usually has overreacted).
Her only argument, no matter what a wife says or does the husband does not have rights to raise his hand. Then I told he she (or nobody else) has any rights to abuse my parents and I wouldn't stoop to her level by abusing her parents back just to make it equal.
It's been 2 months ever since, she hasn't apologized and we haven't spoken to each other. I've been tolerating her for more than 3 years now and I don't think I can take it. Now I'm really torn thinking about my kid's future vs my own marriage life.