My husband is demisexual & I’d like to hear advice or success stories on repairing physical connection
My (35F) husband (36M) discovered he was demisexual through work in couples therapy this year.
Our relationship was in a terrible place before therapy (which we began in summer 2025), and we have worked extremely hard to rebuild trust, communication, fun, and understanding. We now have a solid foundation back in our marriage, but the physical connection is still lacking. We have not had sexual interaction since March of 2025. We have openly communicated about our needs, and he understands that physical connection is a need of mine, but that he is not there yet. I completely understand and never want to pressure him, but I’m also feeling unwanted and burnt out from being “the pursuer”. He was recently on a solo trip out of town and came home early to be with me, so I felt desired in that instance.
Have you all been in this situation with your partners? Did your feelings of desire come back after a rocky period in a relationship? Was there anything your partner did to help you feel supported?
I love him so much and want to do the right things to continue to repair our connection, but I’m not sure what those things are.