u/tessaoliviacannon

Well, my sister just texted my brother and I begging for help because her power went out. She has no job, verbally abuses my entire family. She used my niece as manipulation leverage because she knows that is our weak spot. We love our niece so much and I've compromised a lot of my boundaries to take care of her, for her sake because she doesn't deserve this. I had this whole text written out saying this was the last time I'm going to bail her out and to consider whether her daughter needs air condition over her needing alcohol/drugs next time, but I chose to not bail her out. She's going to be so mad and probably talk bad about me to my niece. This one hurt. This boundary doesn't feel good today. I am already regretting it. This sucks.

Anyone on here a daughter who has a mom with BPD? How are you getting through it? What's the best type of support you've received? I need tips on how I can best support my 4 year old niece, who is already experiencing the chaos.

Today’s been a hard day. For the 3rd time this month, my sister baited me into responding by telling me she thinks our mom is dead. My mom is an addict. They live together and it’s an awful, toxic relationship and environment. Hard not to respond when death comes into the picture.

I decided to put my phone in my room when I got home to separate myself and get away from the stalker texts and calls.

I just went to go check my phone and she’s called me 8 times and texted me “I need you” and of course I hadn’t responded because I wasn’t near my phone. Let’s be real, I wouldn’t have responded anyways after today’s slice of abuse. She was upset I didn’t text her back and then texted again saying “This is 911. I tried to ask for help several times. ______ (my niece) and I are going to a shelter in the middle of the night. I will not be disclosing my location to anyone.” Another favorite thing of hers to bait me with is my niece.

I’m just feeling… I don’t know. I don’t even know what I’m feeling. Despair I guess. Just needed to get this off my chest to a community who I know can relate.