u/thankinadvance

I have been talking to someone for a little over a month and we have gone on 2 dates in person and FaceTimed a few times a week. We seem to get along, but all of our conversations have been either complete jokes or philosophizing about life. So I want to say something along the lines of this

I need to talk about just life plans in general. If I am getting married, I like the Catholic idea of marriage where both people will work through their differences, but I do also think about the idea of discerning marriage with other people and what they want will not be what I want so there might be differences that can't be worked out. Which all need to be talked about.

So my question is, what is the perfect idea of a marriage?

I want to have a very holy relationship where we bring each other closer to God, raise children and obviously build a happy life. But the happy life is third.  I am willing to make sacrifices in my life, especially for people I love.

I want someone who wants to be a good father. Selfless for the children

I would like to have a house, it could be small I really don't care on a little bit of land. Preferably in a more rural area. But I do value the type of Mass I attend which might make me live in a more populated area. 

I'd be fine with Catholic school if the family could afford it, but if I had to work to pay for the school, I'd rather homeschool the kids at least until high school.

I like a more outdoorsy life

I like doing random things, I am pretty active and don't like having down time so I will find something to do.

I would like to have my husband be the head of the family. I am pushy though so he would have to be somewhat strong. I am okay with an emotional man, but I can't feign helplessness forever to make my husband feel manly.

Is it too much? I just don't want to waste his time or my time.